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Fear of Success

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: Fear of Success

By Lazaris

One has heard so often in the world out there about fears of failure. It was presented perhaps a decade ago as this revelatory understanding that there is fear of success.

And it became something of a catch phrase, something of a buzzword. "Your problem is you have fear of success." And it's true for many people. Ironically, for many people the fear of success is much bigger than the fear of failure. You have learned through conditioning, from the time you were a very small infant, to cope with and deal with failure. Everyone has faced failure many times. You can and do cope with failure. Likewise, you have come to face success as well. However, the "conditioning" to deal with and cope with success is never as thorough or as frequent. Therefore, truly so, success is more frightening than failure is.

However, the FEAR OF SUCCESS became such a catch phrase, such a witty, wise thing to say, that no one stopped to look at ... "Well, what does that really mean?"

The psychological concepts come forth in terms of contractual arrangements with parents. They are contracts like: "I will follow your footsteps, and I will never be better than my dad." Or they come in living up to the parental expectations, the slot that you were put in, your place in the family constellation. Lots of psychological concepts were presented, and again, they were very correct.

But here is what to look at now in this monumental decade, the 1990s. One could elaborate for hours on each of these dynamics, but briefly the mechanisms are as follows:

ONE First of all, success is scary because of the weight one gives it, the weight one places on what it means.

If you hold it inside that success means you're smarter, craftier, wiser or "slicker" (in the negative meaning of the word) than others, then success is very frightening.

If you hold that because you're successful you are therefore superior to or "better-than" other people -- that you are "entitled," that you are "endowed," that you have a right to be arrogant -- then success is scary.

When you hold that success validates you as being good and whole and right and true -- or when you hold that success exonerates you from things that would make a less successful person have to work with forgiveness (which truly does relieve the past) -- then success is scary.

If you attach these kinds of meanings, you weigh down success. Here's success, this thing, this essence. If you hang onto it all these weights of better-than, smarter, craftier, you make it far too heavy. And if you make it so very heavy, it begins to wobble, and indeed it can collapse. Therefore, success is scary because of the weight one gives it.

Further, it's scary because it never does any of those things. It never does make you smarter. It never does vindicate or validate you. It never does exonerate you or make you a perfect person. And if you hold that it will, success becomes very frightening.

So the first thing that makes success really scary is the weight that is attached to it.

TWO What's also frightening about it is that success is part of a creative dynamic. Whenever something is created, there's always something else that is destroyed. This is why Rollo May referred to the courage to create -- because there is always that conflict. As you create something, something else is destroyed. If nothing else, ignorance is destroyed. And this very dynamic of creativity also applies to success. It'll often be followed with guilt -- feeling guilty that you've done something, that you've changed the order of things, that you've stepped outside the normal range.

There may even be a feeling of doubt: "Have I done the right thing? What if I'm not heading in the right direction?" It's so very strange. We hear so many people who are succeeding wonderfully well, but their fear is: "Yes, but what if this wasn't what I was meant to do? What if I was supposed to become something else? Suppose my destiny was something else? What if I've somehow managed to land in this arena of success, and I'm flying along like crazy, and one day will wake up and realize I've missed the boat?" Doubt and the concern around that -- that's part of the creative function. Therefore, we would suggest here it's frightening.

THREE Success is also frightening because success carries chaos with it. We call success Light Chaos. But in your world, you're geared and conditioned to have no chaos at all. It's an outgrowth of adolescence where life is so absolutely, unbelievably chaotic that you try to stabilize it with the absolutes -- the always's and never's, the black's and white's -- of adolescence.

And you have come out of that period with the belief that, above all, you should not have chaos. Above all, have things orderly and smooth. And success has chaos. It brings chaos.

Success therefore erupts and brings forth what we call the "root emotion." Whenever success occurs, it brings out the dark side of self, turmoil and trouble. Therefore, of course, whenever chaos exists, chaos brings the eruption, or at least the disturbance, of the dark side. It brings out the Dark Law -- that basic, unbelievable truth that you hold onto. "I can never be happy," or "I will never be successful," or the various negative beliefs that you've now made into a Law.

Chaos brings questioning and the issue of reviewing self. All chaos does, whatever kind, be it physical or emotional, mental or spiritual. It also brings up issues from the past, issues from childhood.

So there are a number of reasons success is scary, in and of itself. And if you can understand that it is scary, and you can anticipate certain of these fears, then we would suggest you can resolve them.

FOUR One of the biggest reasons success is scary is because of what we call a faulty foundation. When you build a house, you lay a foundation and do all the things that are proper according to code. Then upon it you plan to erect a two-story residence.

Well, if in the midst of waiting for that foundation to dry, you decide, "I think I'll make better use of the space and build a ten-story skyscraper on top," the foundation won't hold.

What we mean by the foundation is the motivation. Why do I want to be successful in the first place? If the reason is not solid, if that's not the proper foundation -- solid or not -- then it's going to lean, to tip, to crack and crumble. And success, like a house of cards, will come down.

And what we mean by faulty foundation is: If you're trying to be successful in order to punish someone, that's a faulty foundation.

"I'll show them. All those kids in school who said I'd never amount to anything -- I'll show them, and I'll go back and rub their noses in it." Or, "I'll show my father," or "I'll show my mother." Or, "I'll get 'em and make them suffer. I'm going to be successful and then walk all over them."

Those are faulty motivations. We didn't say they're wrong or bad. We're not judging them. We're simply saying that they can't weather the weight of success.

If you're doing it to vindicate yourself, it's a faulty foundation. Vindication is a fascinating thing, because your consensus reality tells you to do things to vindicate yourself. It never works. Vindication has never worked. "I made a mistake, so now I'm going to do it right, and that will somehow expunge the record." No, forgiveness works, vindication doesn't.

Therefore, if you're trying to succeed to vindicate yourself -- "I really screwed up in my 20s and now in my 40s I'm going to be a triumphant success and that will expunge the record" -- it won't work. It never does. Even if you have a magnificent success, it never erases anything. Forgiveness can, but not vindication.

If you're doing something as a way to win approval, to win praise, to win the acceptance of another, it's a faulty motivation. Again, we're not saying it's a bad motivation. We're saying that it's too weak. It can support "this much" success for approval, for praise, but it can't support "this much more". When you pile this much on, OK. But more than that, and it starts to wobble and crumble. Indeed you can sabotage yourself and end up punishing yourself simply because the foundation, the motivation, the reason you want to be successful is faulty.

So from the weight of what you attach to the success, to the very foundation underneath it -- from the creative process to the chaotic process in between -- those are four very specific reasons (and there are others) why it's scary.

Now, if you can understand that for yourself, then you can change your motivations. You can rebuild and restructure a whole different foundation for being successful. You can take the weight off and realize that it's not going to make you smarter or better-than or give you license. You can be prepared for the chaos, and when it comes, you can work with it. You can handle it. You don't have to freak out and run away. You can be prepared for the guilt and doubt that's going to arise in the very dynamic of creativity.

So now when success comes, it doesn't have to be scary. And what fear is remaining, you can right. You can have the confidence to know that you can overcome it.

Now, certainly, there are a certain number of approaches and techniques one works with, but that, in a nutshell is what we're talking about when one looks at the fear of success.

Similarly, we have talked about fear itself. Fear is scary, yes? Everyone knows that, but no one really stops to look at why.

Certainly indeed fear is scary because it threatens not so much death, although the threat of destruction is a part of it. Mainly it's scary because it threatens impotence. An example: Perhaps you're not so much afraid of dying as you are afraid of pain in the process of dying. And even scarier is feeling that pain and not dying, and therefore having to live the rest of your life with that. That impotence -- that's the threat that fear offers.

But more than that, fear threatens the withdrawal of affection. Fear threatens the exposure of the Dark side of self. Fear also threatens the exposure of the Light Side of self, the positive qualities that people have that they've similarly learned to tuck away. It's what psychologists call the Shadow, the Dark Shadow and the Light Shadow. Fear threatens to expose them both.

Fear threatens also to produce or generate destruction. It threatens that you'll be totally obliterated, totally demolished - and short of it that, you won't have the gift of death, but that you'll have to survive.

And fear blackmails. Fear says, "If you don't watch out, we're going to cause you to have love withdrawn, and you're going to end up all alone and lonely." Or, "We're going to expose you, and everyone will see your ambition, and your aggressiveness, and the pride and hostility, and all those ugly things you thought you had hidden so well." Or, worse yet, "We're going to expose you, and they're going to see your power and strength and talent and all the beautiful parts that you've hidden away."

It's blackmail, just as if someone said, "We're going to expose something, so pay up." Well, that's what fear does. It says, "If you don't cooperate with us, if you don't be afraid of us, then we're going to do something, and you'd better pay up."

And as with any blackmail, if you expose it, you're safe. Why would love be withdrawn? What would happen to intimacy, the caring? What is that Dark Side that you're so afraid of, or the Light Side that you're even more afraid of? What could be the potential physical damage or maiming or impotence that would be there? What is the loneliness that would be there? What is the loneliness that it really threatens?

And as you can expose that to yourself, then you reduce -not eliminate, but reduce -- why fear is so scary. Once you reduce it, then fear can once again become that instinct that is a natural part of you -- the survival instinct of fight, flight, reproduce and feed yourself. It can become the teacher.

Fear was your first teacher, the very first one you ever had. The fear of mother withdrawing the nursing, the love, the nurturing. It is a great teacher. It is a motivator, certainly so. If necessity is the mother of invention, then too often the father of invention is fear. It can be a great motivator, and we would suggest it also haunts and looms. But it can also warn you, cause you to remind yourself and to keep within the boundaries of your own self and your own direction. Fear can be the boundary to let you know when you're getting off course.

So it can be very positive if you can take away the blackmail. And in that scope, once you remove the blackmail then you can learn to work with fear, and it doesn't have to be so frightening. It doesn't have to be the enemy. In fact, it can become a strange, but nonetheless very valuable, ally. And in this time, it is so important that people really not just say the words and let them pass on by, not just pay lip service to "fear of success," but that they also dig into it and really resolve these issues.

In this decade the greatest of fears and the greatest of joys will be there for humanity -- in an individual and a collective way -- to embrace. As you learn to handle both your right of success and the mask or the shadows of fear, then you can more readily choose the greatest joys and greatest of dreams, and work with and use those fears to implement them.

With love and peace ...

Lazaris

 



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Coming Home: The First Step

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: Coming Home: The First Step

By Lazaris

An excerpt from the Personal Growth Recording Coming Home by Lazaris.

All right. All right. Once again it is a pleasure and a joy to have this chance to work with you. The words … pleasure, joy … seem too small to hold and too short to reach the fullness of the pleasure and joy it always is to explore and to work with you.

This day we talk of Coming Home, two words that also seem too small and too short. The very words bring tingles and goose bumps to some and bring tears to the eyes of others. They stir the hearts and minds of all of you. These words, at first blush seeming so simple and so mundane, stir the mysterious and the mystical; they stir the beautiful and the wondrous. These words touch something so deep in you that you cannot seem to touch back – not yet. Coming Home.

Coming Home catches your breath and creates a poignant pause that suspends the moment, making it eternal – making it enchanted, treasured, precious, and special. In that suspended and eternal moment, your spiritual yearning can be made new; your spiritual quest can be made more whole. Both yearning and quest can become rich, vibrant, and vital. Coming Home … in that moment, you can become transcendent. You can transcend.

Somewhere amid the journey, somewhere within the dance, you can discover and unfold what Coming Home is for you. Perhaps you will begin finding what it means in a symbolic way. These two words can be as a hieroglyph or icon. Meditatively, pondering the words themselves, you can "double-click" to open a window of awareness and understanding of you and your spirituality.

Maybe what you seek can be found in the metaphoric meaning and significance found embedded in the words and within the idea. You can find the meaning and significance held in the lifetimes – past, parallel, and future – that make up your fabric of being. Against the backdrop of such lifetimes, you may well find an already-existing realness.

Beyond the embedded meaning in metaphor, some will find the reverie of Coming Home in the metaphorical meaning and significance you give – that you consciously create and manifest by choice in the words and in the idea of Coming Home. Beyond the existing realness, you can consciously give realness.

The richer value of Coming Home lies beyond awareness and understanding; it lies beyond meaning and significance. Please do not misunderstand us: There is value in awareness and understanding, obviously so. Likewise, there is value in meaning and significance.

And then there is a different kind of value. Whereas most value is found in the thing, there is also value that isbeyond the thing. There is also value – a unique and phenomenally powerful value – that lies beyond. It is a value beyond content and context – beyond form. It is a value that can be found in the function – in the engagement, in the embrace, and in the activity of Coming Home.

Somewhere amid the journey and within the magical dance, you can awaken:

Powers, strengths, and talents both old and new with a raw and sheer force that you can harness with design and direction to more fully achieve and fulfill your destiny.

Mystical choice that can be a keystone to all creation and manifestation, a cornerstone to all success, happiness, and joy, and that is seminal to all change. Mystical choice that surpasses and supersedes itself to engage the Truer Self and to re-direct the entropy of the evolution of chance and necessity to the spirituality of the evolution of choice and reflection.

Within the liminal, naked without the encumbrance and entanglements of the Ego-I, you can expose yourself to your vulnerability. You can expose yourself to your weaknesses so that you can change and heal them and so that you can become strong. You can also expose yourself to your strengths, powers, and talents so that you can grow and evolve, becoming freer and more loving. You can become wise.

Miracles that allow you to reach beyond fixing it and curing it to changing and healing it with love.

Motivation: A reason to begin again. A reason to cast off your masks and disguises, to set down your shields and weaponry; a reason to take a stand and to stand tall upon your commitment with visions and dreams. A reason to become the giant that you truly are.

The journey that ended was a journey of Going Home. It was a journey of separation and of forgetting. In your forgetting, it became a journey of fear and of pain: It became a journey of violence, pain, crises, and loneliness. It became a journey of fear and sorrow. As you woke up, that journey of Going Home became a journey of struggle and suffering – "no pain, no gain."

Then it became a journey beyond struggle; it became a journey of love, light, laughter, and celebration. Many called you a fool; some still do. Your journey sought beauty, love, enchantment, and solitude. Yet the journey was still one of Going Home.

Now everything is different, and you have come to the end of that long journey. You are no longer Going Home. You are now Coming Home.

Coming Home. It is like a grand attractor that compels more than it propels, that draws more than it drives. It calls you, and you can respond. It changes every part of you, and you change if you will respond.

In the depth of Coming Home you can discover so many wonders. You can discover the luminous, the numinous, the liminal, and the responsible.

The luminous is that "something more" that defies description. It is the Light within you. You have felt it; you have been astounded and amazed by it. It is the illumination that is the endless mystery of you. In the depth of Coming Home, you can be filled and overflowing with light and love. You can be filled and overflowing with the light and love of God/Goddess/All That Is and of the Goddess, and you can be changed by that very light and love. You can be changed forever.

The numinous … another word for the divinity in you. Though it is premature to say that you are God or Goddess, it is also eternally true that within you there is a "piece of God and of Goddess." Within you lies a divinity. We would suggest that it seems solidly sleeping, stirring and rustling, or waking up more and more, but within you there is a divinity. Deep within the dance called Coming Home, you can be filled and outpouring with the ineffable and the divine beauty and wonder of God/Goddess/All That Is and of the Goddess. You can be radiant with beauty and wonder that can instantly and spontaneously engage and embrace you and as instantly and spontaneously change and grow you.

The liminal is the threshold; it is the gateway to the energy of "between". It is that mysterious between space-time; it is that mystical pause. The liminal is a state between transmutation, transformation, and transcendence. Additionally, the liminal is a state of unity between duality and oneness. We suggest that it is a state of unity and equity without hierarchy and a state of sacred vulnerability. It is holy.

The liminal is also a state of being where you, separate from the Ego-I, can discover the Self-I. There in that mysterious between and in that mystical pause, you can encounter the Self-I who is a blending of the masculine and feminine in you, who is the blended woman and man that you are, regardless of your gender. You can engage the Self-I who knows the equity of the "Faces of Self" with integrity and character and who is the mature self with an elegant rapport with the more real you.

Within the liminal, naked without the encumbrance and entanglements of the Ego-I, you can expose yourself to your vulnerability. You can expose yourself to your weaknesses so that you can change and heal them and so that you can become strong. You can also expose yourself to your strengths, powers, and talents so that you can grow and evolve, becoming freer and more loving. You can become wise.

The responsible means more than the obvious ability to respond. It means "to return to your promise." Within the dance of Coming Home … within its depths … you can find the courage and the confidence to return to the promise you made to God and to the Goddess. So long ago when, by your free will, you separated from God/Goddess/All That Is in pursuit of who you were, you promised that you would return. You promised that you would return to God and that you would return to Goddess.

You separated, we would suggest, and began your journey Going Home. Now you have rounded the bend, and you are upon the journey Coming Home. It is time to return to that promise made "so long ago." It is time to return to your promise of Coming Home.

The beauty: You are waking up now. However conscious or yet to become conscious you are, you are on your way Home. Seek the luminous, numinous, liminal, and the responsible in you, and you will find your way. We love you.

With love and peace,

Lazaris


 

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Message from Lazaris on the Events of September 11, 2001

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: Message from Lazaris on the Events of September 11, 2001

By Lazaris

This message was originally sent to everyone in the Forum and who is on the mailing list that has an email address. We have received many requests to post this message on the Website as well, so we are posting it now.

Dear Ones,

We invite you to join us in a journey of healing; we invite you to join us at this time of immeasurable tragedy and pain. There are those who will rush to make sense of this insanity. In time you will search to find the meaning and then craft the significance for yourself of what happened today.

But now it is a time to act. It is a time to heal. There are thousands of people – unnamed people who will most likely remain anonymous to you – who need your love, your compassion, and your magic. There is a nation that needs your strength and resolve – that needs your substance and light – to bolster and restore its soul and spirit. There is a world that waits for those such as you to stand up, step forth, and lift your voices of love and healing. It is a time to act. It is a time to lead.

Terrorism threatens various forms of insanity as it attempts to shake and shatter the very foundations of growth. It tries to steal and crush your dreams and hopes just for the sake of destruction. Its goal is to shackle your truer self: to rob all humans of their gracious and tenacious capacity to love and to care.

Terrorists play upon the fears of the possible, the future, and the unknown as they lurk in their own brand of mystery and cower in the “between energies” of the dark and the light. They emerge and then retreat into their own prisons and poisons and into their own manipulations and addictions as they conjure a field of terror trying to force you and others back into similar constricting harbors from fear and pain.

Terrorists, with their war of terrorism, came today. Their ultimate success or failure is not in their hands; it is in your hands now. Many innocent people are dead. More are in shock, riddled with the pain and horror of this day. A nation and a world are in shock. The grief and grieving has just begun. Do the terrorists with their terror win?

With your love, compassion, and magic, with your strength and resolve, and with your substance and light, you can choose: No, the terrorists do not win.

With your healing, you can restore the sanity and stabilize the foundation of growth. You can restore the dreams and hopes in you and in all whom you touch. You can participate in renewing the soul and spirit of a nation and its people. You can stand up and step forth. This is the dawning of your day: You can lift your one voice – a heroic and magical voice – and be heard.

Yes, you can. Oh, dear one, you are part of the equation. You matter. And those such as the terrorists in your world did not count on those such as you, the mapmaking magicians and dreamer/dream weavers of a new world.

We invite you to come with us upon a journey of healing. Come with your Higher Self and those of your Unseen Friends.

1. The journey begins with feeling the full range of your emotions. Feel your fear and pain; feel your anger and hate; feel the tears of your weeping. Feel them fully and intensely. Then release that energy to your Higher Self. Release that energy to your Soul. Release the fullness and intensity to God/Goddess/All That Is.

2. Allow these mystical alchemists to transmute and transform your emotions from their current formation into the formation of greater love. Allow God/Goddess/All That Is to lift you, transcendent, into the embrace of Their Love and into the heart of your partnership together.

3. Then step forth and stand tall: as a beacon and lantern of that Divine Love and Light. Step forth with your individual images of people, of a nation, and then of the world mending and healing. Step forth with your collective images of a world becoming one – becoming One.

4. Now let us all gather in the solitude of the night. We will build a bonfire – a good fire – together. The branches and logs fueling this mysterious and mystical fire will be your healing images born of love and light. The fire will burn luminous and bright in the magic of the night.

If you choose to participate in this healing journey, work with us each night. Any time after twilight and before the dawn ... your Higher Self and Soul know when the time will be right.

Dear one, you are not alone ... never again will you be alone. We are here for you, we love you. Your Unseen Friends are about, and magic is afoot.

And they come ... the Dreamers, the Ancients, and the Shining Ones. You are the magicians of this current and coming time. Even in this tragic time, this is the dawning of your day.

Thank you for accepting our invitation to act.

With love ... with love and peace,

Lazaris

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Lazaris Message on the War in Iraq March 20, 2003

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: Lazaris Message on the War in Iraq March 20, 2003

By Lazaris

LAZARIS:

All right, all right. Well, indeed, a pleasure to be with you, a pleasure to be talking with you and to be looking into your world, and to welcome you, and to welcome you with all kinds of pleasure and all kinds of joy.

And tonight, a time of blending, a time of meditation, a time of contemplation. A tumultuous time in your world, that is so. A war, the obvious topic that is on all your minds and weighs heavily upon all your hearts regardless of your politics, regardless of how you experience this energy, a war that weighs heavily upon mind and heart, weighs heavily upon soul and spirit this night.

The Channel’s response earlier in the evening about the dawning of your day, about finding that voice as Magician, masterful magician, about raising your voice so that you can be heard amid the din … and you have both found that voice and you have been heard. You have changed the complexity, you have changed the nature – no, not perfectly.

So what is this war about? Last time, a dozen years ago, it was about a bully and how you respond, how you interact, with a bully. It was about a crisis of character, it was about a crisis of ego, it was about a crisis of success. This war, a very different war. And it is, we’ll put it quite succinctly, a shame that it has come to this. And all would agree. Those who are very supportive of the American administration, part of a coalition or otherwise, those individuals who are totally supportive would totally agree, it is a shame that it has come to this.

And those who are in opposition, in varying degrees, to such activity, however insightfully or blindly in opposition, would likewise agree, it is a shame. And there would be many who would want to blame. And others, more wisely, would want to look to where lies the fault … not whose fault is it, in that of blaming, but where lies the fault? It is a shame – the war is an issue of shame on all sides; how people respond, how humankind responds to shame.

Shame-based: You’ve worked with it personally. This, a shame of humankind. And the fault lies where? In humankind’s inability – we’ll say it as succinctly as we can – in humankind’s inability to build alliances. Humankind, relying upon the word “ally,” but not really developing alliances. Had the European Union, for example, truly built alliances, had the Western world – had the Western Hemisphere and the Western world really pulled together to create a viable alliance, a variety of alliances – no, not organizations, not labels – but not just allies but truly building alliances, then there could have been an alternative solution to what now is something that is this war around which everyone feels shame.

The failure, if there is, the fault lies in the inability to truly build alliances. And had alliances been fully built – over the last decade of years from 1992 onward, had alliances truly been built that were other than political gesturing or posturing – had they more solidly been built, then there would have been viable alternatives that everyone could have enjoyed. And it is a shame that it has come to this.

So what do you do about it? As you look into your shame, as you look into the shame that you personally feel around this war, how do you react? How do you respond? What thoughts? What feelings?

Some may be angry, some may be hurt, some may be scared, some may go into all states of self-doubt. When you look squarely into this countenance, when you look squarely into the face, when you look into the eyes of shame, what do you feel? What do you think? Feel those feelings, think those thoughts. Let yourself sift them and shift them, sort through them.

What beliefs and attitudes do you hold about shame? What choices and decisions do you make about shame? And in that shame – your shame, not other people’s, your own – in that shame, what do you do? How much do you punish yourself? How much do you throw yourself into self-doubt? How much do you ridicule yourself? Or how much do you forgive? How much do you forgive and work to heal yourself? How much do you release that shame? Ask for the help in lifting that shame? Turn to your very Soul, to your Higher Self, to your relationship with God/Goddess/All That Is, to your love, to lift that shame, forgive yourself, and heal yourself?

Yes, this war, it is a shame that it has come to this, and therein lie your clues, Magician, to the focus of your magic. No, you will not write the reality that there is no war, but you can still write the reality that this war – a shame that it has come to this – can lead you into that future, that future, that positive future of dreams and visions – that positive future, that virgin future untouched by human hand, rich with magic and miracles. How exactly, where exactly, what the form will be …

But as you can squarely face your shame, resolve how you deal with your shame, ask for help in its release, forgive yourself, and then direct all that energy that otherwise would have been lost in shame to the dream, to the vision, to the love, to the magic, to the miracles that you want to create. And you can let your voice, the voice of a magician, the voice of magic, be a part of the resolution of this war, of this shame, and part of what can follow in the years – in the months, in the years ahead.

With Love and Peace,

Lazaris

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In Search of the Truer Self

Saturday, December 19, 2015
Blog: In Search of the Truer Self

By Lazaris

All right. All right. Well, well, oh my, yes. Certainly so. Whenever we conduct a workshop, we begin by listening and by watching. At workshops, with your permission, we begin by touching – by touching that vulnerable and tender part of you that, in turn, always touches us so deeply. We touch that part that shimmers – that part so fragile and so powerful – so profoundly powerful – somewhere deep inside you.

That part of you that we touch and that touches us, in many ways, is the you who always loves – it’s the you we call the Truer Self. As you read these words, we will work with you so that you might touch – so that you can be touched – by that part, by that Truer Self as well.

Your journey with its few and many paths has taken many twists and turns. You have known struggle and suffering. You have known fear and pain – more fear and pain than was ever meant to be. You have known failure and sorrow and the silence of shame and despair.

And through it all, you love, you continue to seek and search for love. You have also known the power and wonder of celebration and triumph. And still you love even more. You do not settle or become complacent. You continue to seek and search for love – for more love.

You are amazing; you are astounding. No matter how bad it gets, no matter how good it becomes, you always seek and search for love. No matter how obscured, encumbered, or entangled your quest becomes, it never ends. No matter how lost you appear to be, you keep searching to be found.

It is your nature; it is your grace. Seeking more love comes to you as flight to an eagle. It is your dignity and your presence.

Amid this never-ending search for love, there is another search. We would suggest that while more love is your goal, you are also seeking your Truer Self. And as you seek both – more love and your Truer Self – there are so many wonders waiting for you.

So many wonders ...

1. You can create and manifest so much more of what you want, and you can fulfill so much more of your dreams and visions. You can touch and be touched by more of your magic, by more of your passion, and by more of your creativity. The peace, the self-acceptance, the more healing and the more loving can be yours.

2. A new sense of compassion and dominion can be yours. You can metaphorically walk with the elements, creating positive futures in the world that can become friendlier and more encouraging. You can give without guilt – beyond guilt – and you can love without fear – beyond fear.

3. Greater freedom to be and to become, the freedom to supersede and to surpass, with its possibilities and its capacities, can be within your grasp.

4. As you search for more love and seek your Truer Self, you can challenge the limits of your beliefs and imagination and the constraints of your trust and love. You can be wise. You can know. And in many ways, you can become your Truer Self and the beneficiary of the more love you always seek.

You are ready ...

That you are reading these words suggests that you are ready. We would suggest, your Higher Self is ready to link and connect you to your Truer Self. Your Truer Self is ready to be found.

Your world is waiting. As we have often said, "Nothing changes until you do." The world is evolving, and your conscious and active participation is an integral part of the evolution. The positive futures, rather than the "nightmares" and "mediocrities," are coming. It is your conscious creation and midwifery that will make it so.

Your spirituality calls you to the challenge. You are at a crossroads. Your future is waiting with so much abundance and bounty – happiness and success. In so many ways, we would suggest, seeking your Truer Self is the next step in your quest for love. With new ways of changing and new ways of growing, you must have known that there would be new ways of loving.

The Great Work and the Great Adventure are your work and adventure. In this sensing, these are yours to unfold with more of your magic and with the miracles of your Truer Self. With your Truer Self, the Great Work leading to the Great Adventure can become the Grand Adventure.

We hear you ...

We hear you. "It's too much. I am not enough. I cannot do all that; I cannot do it alone."

You are not alone. There is help. We would suggest, we are here to help you. Your Higher Self and Soul are always with you to help you and to assure you with their love and caring. Each is ready to help you come face to face with your Truer Self.

Your spirit, so filled with the breath of life and the inspiration-aspiration to live life more full and rich, is aligned with your Higher Self and Soul.

As we have said, your Truer Self is waiting to be discovered. And of course, God/Goddess/All That Is is always there for you and is always ready to love you.

You are not alone. You are loved more than you can know.

The nature of your Truer Self ...

Dreamer and Visionary: We would suggest, the Truer Self in you is always reaching for the future, the possible, the luminous – that which is filled with Light – and the numinous – that which is filled with the Divine. This august part of you is always reaching for the Unknown and the unfathomable.

Your Truer Self uses their raw materials and tools of creation with a focus on the future. In this sensing, your Truer Self accesses their beliefs and attitudes, their thoughts and feelings, and their decisions and choices with an emphasis on creating a better future rather than continually attempting to fix or perfect the past. The Truer Self forgives the errant of the past and works with receiving the powerful of the future. '

Your Truer Self activates and utilizes the generating and sustaining energies of conscious reality creation with an eye that is more upon what they are about to create more than upon what they have already created. In this sensing, this Self works with trust, gratitude, happiness, and value (the generating energies of reality creation) to build bridges to what lies at and beyond their horizons. They are visionaries; they look forward more than backward. They work with the sustaining energies (discipline, responsibility, intimacy, and love) to empower the present and the future rather than to justify the past.

That is to say, this powerful and beautiful Self within you asks, "Where am I going?" more often than they ask, "Where have I been?" That Self asks, "Where will this lead me?" more than, "What will this get me?"

Find these ingredients in you and you begin to see the hints and clues that your Truer Self is ready to find you.

Consciousness and Conscience with Dignity: Everyone has a sense of their consciousness. We call that awareness the Self-I as opposed to the Ego-I. Each person has a conscience.

That "little voice in your head" that is mistakenly called your Higher Self by some, we would suggest, is actually your conscience. Too often it is born of guilt or fear; too often it is born of duty and obligation.

Why do you get up and get about the work of the day? With a conscience of guilt or fear, that "little voice" offers threats and warnings about the dire consequences of not getting up and getting on with your day. With a conscience of duty and obligations, that "little voice" speaks of endless lists of things to do.

Yet, there is a different voice. We would suggest, there is consciousness and a conscience born of and based on dignity ... upon your dignity.

The base of your personal dignity is found within your sense of valuing yourself for who you have become and for who you are about to be. It is found within the strength of your character and integrity and in the presence of your Soul and Spirit. It is formed in your sense of freedom.

That "little voice," when based on dignity, encourages you to get up and be about your day because you are a valuable person with much to explore and offer this day. It entreats you with a remembrance of an embrace of Soul and Spirit and of the wonder of freedom. And you respond to that "little voice" with doing the right thing because it is the right thing. In this sensing, you respond with character and with integrity.

Your Truer Self is conscious of its dignity. Its conscience is born of and based upon that dignity. Find your dignity, and you are in pursuit of that not-so-elusive Truer Self.

Integrity: Admittedly so, integrity is a hard concept to fully understand. We would suggest that many within the consensus reality have used the word and the concept of integrity for less than admirable purposes. Many have used the idea of integrity to manipulate others.

Despite the twists and distortions that have come to the concept of integrity, we suggest it can be helpful to understand it as involving four ideas: 1) being spontaneously responsible for the impact you have; 2) thinking and feeling the full range of your emotions with intensity and humility; 3) becoming wise; and 4) having both personal and spiritual character.

People with integrity hold the space within themselves to hold every aspect of who they are. They hold a space for the beautiful within them. They also hold the space for the ugly within them.

In this sensing, a person who is unaware of their shadowy side lacks integrity. That is, a person who says such things as "I don’t have a negative bone in my body" lacks integrity because they do not have the space within them for their ugly side.

In the reverse, a person who says "There is nothing good about me; nothing at all" also lacks integrity because they do not hold the space for the beautiful in them.

The person with integrity says such things as, "I know I can be negative ... very negative. I also know that I have many wonderful strengths and powers. I have the potential for either the negative or the positive. I know this about me. And I can choose. Yes, I can choose the space from which I come. I choose the positive. I choose my power and strength."

Your Truer Self has integrity. You will discover more of your Truer Self as you explore your own integrity.

Making and Working Miracles: Your Truer Self doesn’t deserve more miracles than others do; it is not rewarded with more miracles. We would suggest, your Truer Self is capable of making and receiving miracles ... miracles available to anyone.

When we have talked of miracles makers, we have suggested that they have certain characteristics of personality ... they have a unique nature.

They are confident and conscious of their spirituality. The miracle maker uses success and failure and personal and spiritual crises to become strong and to transform. We would suggest, they do not use such as these to justify weakness or to explain their "specialness."

The miracle maker has the courage to craft their life filled with freedom, individuality, joy, and authority. That is to say, they look to utilize their strength and power ... their magic ... to make a life more than they look to these to make a living. In life, they look to supersede and surpass what has been, in search for what will be. They pursue the unfathomable with expectation and anticipation. They pursue the Unknown with hope.

As you seek these, you come closer to your Truer Self.

Seeking and Searching with Spirited Passion: Spirited passion includes such as these: Truth, Goodness, and Beauty; Creativity and Productivity; Awareness and Understanding; Meaning and Significance; Value and the Valuable; Wonder and Joy; and Spirituality.

As you ponder these words and the concepts contained within them – as you seek the experience of each – in the mystery and the secrets that unfold, you can reveal more of your Truer Self.

Gracious Generosity: This is a kind of giving that has little or nothing to do with giving to "give in" or to "give up." It has little or nothing to do with "giving away" or "giving in exchange." Gracious giving is both giving and receiving beyond guilt; it is loving beyond fear.

We would suggest that gracious giving – the giving that is a natural part of you and exalted in you–is giving of your being more than of your doing.

By this we mean that often you give of what you do and of what you have. For example, you give money, time, space (your spare room or garage), and skill. Such giving can be and so often is beautiful and touching. It can be an inspiration. Giving of what you have and do can be profoundly powerful, and it is necessary.

We would add that there is giving of what you are; there is giving of what you "be." In this sensing, you are not money, time, your spare room or garage. You are not your skill. You have these, but you are not these.

What are you? You are consciousness of love; you are caring and creative. You are a spiritual being. Gracious giving is giving of your love and caring; it is giving of your talent and creativity. It is giving of your spirit ... your Soul and Spirit. These are the stuffs of your beingness more than your doingness.

Your Truer Self knows the difference. As you come to sense that difference, you come to sense your Truer Self.

Transcendence: Certainly there are transcendent states within your reality. There are those moments marked with beauty and with ecstasy; there are those moments –those timeless and spaceless moments that can be eternal – that are sacred in the hallows of beauty, love, solitude, and enchantment. Your Truer Self knows such moments. And we would suggest, they also have a resonance or a radiance of being transcendent.

What does that mean? Perhaps the most elegant way to describe being transcendent is to say that such a person has a radiance about them that seems to say that they enjoy life and enjoy living it rich with love and caring. That radiance seems to say that such a person is intrigued by and seeks complexity and challenge in their life. And they seek it with wisdom and with spirituality. A transcendent person, we would suggest, is one who invests in themselves and in their future.

Beginning the search ...

Work with the components. Work with where these qualities are present and where they seem lacking; work with where they seem missing. As you acknowledge and augment the presence of these, your Truer Self can emerge more fully. As you bring more loving and more healing to what seems to lag or to be lacking, you can love and heal your Truer Self into participating more fully in your life.

Work with:

  • Dreaming & Visioning
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  • Consciousness & Conscience of Dignity
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  • Integrity
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  • Making & Working Miracles
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  • Seeking & Searching with Spirited Passion
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  • Gracious Generosity
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  • Transcendence

Work with love. Remember, whereas it used to be that your growth was based on discipline, admonishment, fixing, and curing, your growth is now about more loving and more healing. It’s about changing more than about fixing; it’s about healing more than about curing. Work with love. You always do.

As we said when we began ... You are amazing; you are astounding. No matter how bad it gets, no matter how good it becomes, you always seek and search for love. No matter how obscured, encumbered, or entangled your quest becomes, it never ends. No matter how lost you appear to be, you keep searching to be found.

Yes, work with love ... always more love.

We close with the love we feel and hold for you.

With love and peace,

Lazaris



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Gift of Mystical Choice

Thursday, December 17, 2015
Blog: Gift of Mystical Choice

By Lazaris

All right. All right. Well, well, well ... once again we connect. Once again, it is a pleasure; it is a joy. Welcome.

Today, we want to explore choice. We would suggest that because you make choices - make choices all day long - it is easy to assume that you know all you need to know about choice. And we also suggest that amid the many choices you make every day, there is a mystery. And within that mystery, there are both power and magic.

So we talk of choice, but we do not talk of it in the ways with which you are most familiar. We do not talk about setting goals, creating a plan, making decisions, or following through. You have heard such talks often enough ... maybe too often.

Let us continue.

The Mystery You Know

The mystery of choice lies within space-time. It is located within the forms and within the formation -- the patterns of those forms -- that is your reality. It is located within the awareness, understanding, and meaning, and within the conceiving and perceiving that you give to and receive from your reality every day of your life. You already know much of the mystery.

It begins ... Choice is one of your raw materials that you use to create your reality. To remind you, there are six raw materials with which everyone creates their reality: Belief, Attitude, Thought, Feeling, Decision, and Choice.

Along with belief, choice is the most powerful raw material. Of all the raw materials, choice is the active agent of change. It is the agent of implementation. You see, you can change your beliefs and your attitudes, but reality does not change until you make new choices based upon your new beliefs or your new attitudes. Likewise, we suggest, you can alter your thoughts and shift your feelings. And it is choice that turns those altered and shifted states into reality.

So it is with decisions. You can make new decisions and change old ones. Unless you also make choices, in this sensing, your newly made or changed decisions are at risk of being nothing more than rhetoric. Unless you make choices, decisions made are at risk of becoming nothing more than another reason why you are "not good enough."

Choice triggers the action and implementation of belief, attitude, thought, feeling, and decision-making. Choice is the active agent of change.

And then ... Choice is focused intent. As such, it is critical to not only what you pay and give attention to, but how you pay and give that attention. Choice opens the floodgates to allow dimension and meaning to your personal and global reality.

We suggest that there are four core ways in which you make - allow - your world real. One way is to give it dimension; you give length, width, and depth as well as space-time to that which you make real. Think of it: the things you remember and the events that matter to you have dimension. Whether they are positive or negative realities to you, we would suggest, they have dimension.

Another way that you make or allow things to be real in your world is by giving those things meaning. You allow them to matter to you; you allow them to be significant to you. They have value.

Reflection is another way. The things that are real to you are the things you give or pay attention to. They are things that are positively or negatively connected to your intent. As well, they are things that you act upon and that influence your self-image. You allow things to be real by reflection: Attention, intention, action, and image.

The fourth way: choice. The things that are real in your world are things that you have chosen to give dimension, mattering, and reflection. Choice, we would suggest, opens the floodgates that allow your reality and your world to be real to you.

Keystone ... Choice is the keystone to creation and manifestation. It can supersede all patterns, templates, and programs that are already in place.

 

Choice can override your genetic-hormonal codes, for example. You know that many people excuse or explain their actions because of their hormones. There are those who claim being out of control or helpless because of their genes. There is some merit to this argument. We would suggest, often such statements are nothing more than excuse, but your genetic codes do give you messages. Even so, choice can override those messages.

 

There are societal templates of behavior (social memes), and there are acceptable patterns of power. You all know that there are patterns, templates, and programs from your past that can seem to threaten you as they haunt you with "what was" or loom ahead of you with "what will be."

Choice can supersede such encumbrance. To create and then manifest the reality you want, it is important to surpass these old patterns and programs. It is critical to be free of them. Choice offers that freedom. We would say: Choice is keystone to all creation and to all manifestation.

 

At the core ... Choice is seminal to change.

 

Cornerstone ... Choice is the cornerstone to success. It is at the root and the core of happiness and joy; at the core and root of love, intimacy, and caring. It is at the root and core of worth, esteem, confidence, and respect -- the valued self.

 

And then ... Choice is focused intent, and as such, it is critical to changing intent and thus the function and form of energy. It is critical to changing action and image. Choice is essential to all learning.

 

Active agent ... Choice is the active agent - the yeast - of your power, strength, and talent. It is the active agent of taking back your power with responsibility.

 

Beyond the Mystery, the Mystical

 

Yes, as we suggest, there is much that you already know of choice and its mystery. And yet, there is more. To open the window or the door to understanding the mystery of choice, consider the following seven statements.

Don't try to fully understand these statements. We would suggest, allow yourself to ponder them; savor them. Let them touch you. You may retreat or recoil at first. Let it be. You may feel something positive and powerful stir in you as you consider these statements. Let it be.

Just be with these statements. Savor. Ponder. Let them steep the mystery - the mystery of choice - in you. Let it be. Choose.

 

Choice within space-time is located in our conscious consciousness, not in our subconscious or unconscious consciousness. Though attention is often subconscious and intent is often unconscious, choice, that hooks each, is conscious.

Choice selects the neural pathways of brain activity. When choice is conscious, the electromagnetic and electrochemical energies and forces of the brain are shifted and changed. The neural pathways can be changed by choice. Choice can alter the avenues of least resistance and the avenues of least effort.

Choice engages the mind that can override the brain and it can engage the unconscious to override the subconscious. You can become even more conscious of consciously creating your own reality. You can create and manifest with greater artistry and mastery.

Choice can supersede and surpass itself.

Choice can redirect evolution so that it does not proceed driven by entropy and random change or necessity.

Choice can open gateways to the Future and to your futures ... to the possible and to your many possibilities.

Choice is within space-time, yet it functions between it. It is not only sequential. It is not only chronological. Space-time choice is mysterious. One of its mysteries is that it is also mystical.

 

While the mystery of choice lies within space-time, we would suggest, the mysticism of choice lies beyond space-time. It has no location. The mystical of choice is non-local.

Because it is non-local, because it is beyond space-time, and because it is part of the more-real, this kind of choice - mystical choice - is also more real. As you allow space-time choice with its mystery to become more and more powerful, you can use mysterious and conscious choice to link and connect with the mystical choice that lies beyond space-time.

The more-real choice can amplify the mystery known, and yet-to-be-known, of conscious choice. Such mystical choice can allow the known, and yet-to-be known, to become bright and brilliant.

When mysterious choice becomes mystical, the miraculous states are at hand.

 

The Resistance

 

As mysterious or as mystical as choice can be, often it is not. Often choice is quite ordinary. Often it lacks luster as well as power. Why?

 

Paradox ... As powerful as choice is, it is neither mysterious nor mystical when it is a choice of last resort or one that stands alone. In this sensing, when someone has exhausted all their options and feels helpless or even hopeless, they turn to choice. Only then do they become interested in "this thing called choice." Also, when someone senses that there are no options to explore, when they feel imprisoned in and by their situation, they suddenly want to explore choice. But, as we say, there is nothing mysterious or mystical about such last resort or stand-alone choices. It is a paradox.

Likewise, fear choices - those choices made within the depth of fear and for the purpose of circumventing fear - and disowned choices - choices made while pretending that it "wasn't a choice at all" - have no mystery. We would suggest, they do have impact, but they lack mystery; they lack magic.

And coerced choices lack mystery, mysticism, and magic. As powerful as choice can be, it can seem powerless as well. In this sensing, it's a paradox.

 

Pain ... Choice can be hurtful and painful when it is used as a club or weapon for self-defense or for self-punishment and ridicule. There are those who have used the concept of choice to defend themselves. When their reality doesn't seem to work, they lament that they chose this or that they didn't choose that. "But I chose ..." becomes their chorus.

Others have used the concept of choice to beat themselves up for failing at or for falling short of their goal. "But I chose ..." becomes their sharp barb.

If you have used choice to defend or punish yourself, you could resist choice now because of that past pain. If you have used choice to ridicule yourself, the pain of such action could create resistance to its mystery or mysticism If you have imprisoned yourself with the harsh judgments borne of painful choice, you may find reluctance to explore the wonder of choice. We would suggest, with the more loving and more healing of the pain, the option of choice can blossom once again.

 

Fear ... Choice can be fearful when it is viewed as being too revealing and too vulnerable, too liberating and freeing; or too responsible and powerful. It can be fearful: You worry, "What if I make the wrong choice?" It can be frightening.

 

Familiarity ... Choice can become automatic, and when it does, it is no longer mysterious or mystical. This happens, we would suggest, when you are programmed or conditioned to automatically choose or when driven by old patterns, templates, or programs, when you give power away or relinquish it, or when your yet-to-be-broken "dark law" is threatening.

 

A Few Techniques

 

To allow your choices to become more meaningful, more powerful, and more magical, we suggest there are several things you can do.

1. Remember and reunite with the mysteries that you do know. Work with becoming more conscious of these seven mysteries. We would suggest, allow them to become more real in your world. That is, give the seven mysteries dimension; give them time and space. Allow them to matter; sense the meaning, significance, and value to you. Reflect; give attention to these mysteries before you have to pay attention to them. In this sensing, work with intent and act upon these seven mysteries. Allow their truth to become a part of your self-image. Oh, yes, let yourself choose to allow these mysteries to be real. We would suggest that choice is seminal to change.

2. Ponder and savor those statements about choice that is beyond space-time; work with those statements about mystical choice. Play with them. In this sensing, allow them to play with your mind.

3. Healing resistance is so valuable in this process. Face and explore your resistance. The ones we discuss here are not the only ones; they are intended as catalysts for the resistance you can find within yourself. Recognition of resistance is followed by acknowledgment: This is your resistance and it can be healed.

After you recognize and acknowledge, forgiving yourself for having and holding resistance to the mystery and mysticism of choice becomes paramount. Self-forgiveness is key to changing and thus key to healing.

4. Choosing Choice Technique: This is such an elegant technique that many dismiss as "too simple." We would suggest that those who seek struggle and pain in their growth are particularly offended by this technique.

When something happens in your reality, no matter how big or small, in this sensing, work with the following statements. Own the statements and answer the questions.

    • This is a choice.
    • This is my choice.
    • I am choosing to ... (state the thing) ...
    • My reason for this choice is ...
    • This is how I am going to respond; this is the action I am going to take. The action upon my choice is ...
    • The result of my action was ...
    • That was my choice, too.

Start with small events. Work with non-threatening events and then with less threatening events. In time, we would suggest, you will sense the power of this elegant technique. And with the "big events" in your life, you will have access to the power, mystery, mysticism, and the magic of choice. We would suggest, it is a wonderful gift.

5. Who is choosing? To build upon conscious choice and its power, it is important to know who, within you, is the one currently making the choices. Is it your child or adolescent? And which face of child-adolescent is it? This question can be so helpful.

Is it your negative ego that is choosing? Is it your parental face? Who is making this choice? Again, such questions can open you to an inner dialog. We would suggest, such a dialog can be empowering. It can also interrupt what could be a very negative avenue to follow.

Even when the "who is choosing" is exactly who you wanted to be making those choices, being conscious of that can be enlightening and empowering. The result of those choices can be truly magical. As we say, choice can be a wondrous gift.

6. Know the category of choice that you are making. At first, this can seem encumbering or a waste of time. Though it can seem to be, we would suggest that this does not have to be busy work. In this sensing, as you become more conscious of the type of choice you are making, you can become more clear about how to implement it. You can become clearer on how to work with this active agent of change.

 

Types of choices ... Physical, Emotional-Mental, or Social. Is this a choice that can change you physically or whose action will be physical? Will this choice play out emotionally-mentally? Does this choice affect your social reality and world? How far beyond you does it reach? The answers, we would suggest, alter your means and methods of responding.

Types of choices ... Character, Integrity, or Value. A character choice is very different than a physical or emotional one. The touch of Soul is different. Knowing that, in this sensing, can alter the depth and touch of mystery within that choice. A choice that increases a sense of integrity or adds to the sense of value is also unique.

Types of choices ... Creative or Spiritual. Again, we would suggest, knowing the energy and force within the kind of choice you make can make the process of choosing more and more conscious. With greater consciousness comes greater magic.

7. Bottle It! You can create a homeopathic-like elixir. Or, we would suggest, you could work with crystals. With either, you can create a choice-elixir or a choice-crystal to hold the mystery and mysticism ... to hold the magic ... of choice.

Weed through your fear and growth choices, your old and new choices, your relinquished and embraced choices, and your constricting and expanding choices. Flow the energy of growth choices, new and embraced choices, and of luminous choices into the elixir or into the crystal.

Think about some of the really wonderful choices you have previously made. As you think of these, feel the sense of aliveness, of gratitude, and of love. Feel your sense of self-value. As well, we would suggest, be alert to and feel your sense of patience, of giving, and of power. Feel these feelings around those wonderful choices that you have already made. Filled with the resonance of these energies, flow them into the elixir or crystal.

Use the energy of remembering and reuniting (technique #1) and of pondering and savoring (technique #2) and flow these energies into the bottle or the crystal form.

Now complete the process by flowing your love, your caring, and your sense of intimacy into the bottle or crystal. Flow your images of happiness and joy as well as your images of healing into this vessel.

Cover the bottle containing the elixir or cover the crystal that is alive with light and love. A simple cloth works just grand. Cover it, we would suggest, for 24 hours.

Now you have bottled it. You have bottled the essence of the mystery and mysticism of choice.

Did you really do that? The answer is up to you. It's your choice.

Ah, it has been a joy working with you. And we look forward to working with you as you implement these ideas and techniques. We look forward to next time ...

With love and peace,

Lazaris

 

 

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The Magic of Receiving

Thursday, December 17, 2015
Blog: The Magic of Receiving

By Lazaris

This article is a partial transcription of the recording entitled "The Magic of Receiving: A New Dimension of Success"

It is a joy to be with you and to work with you ... And once again, we are going to take a look, a more profound look at receiving. ... In your Darker Moments, we know, there are times that you decide that receiving just does not work, or that you can't do it. Depending upon your particular penchant for self- punishment, blame, or criticism, either you pile it on the function of receiving, or you pile it on yourself. One or the other of you is a failure, that is for sure. In those darker moments ...But, indeed, in the Lighter Times (which are, in fact, the truer times), you absolutely know that you have learned a tremendous amount about the ability, the function, and the wonder of receiving. And more than just learning about it, you have done it. You do it, and you have been very beautifully conscious of receiving the bounty, the abundance, the cornucopia of success -- or at least parts of it -- into your reality.

You know that receiving works, and that you work, too. In those Lighter Moments, in those Truer Times, you have very consciously received. More and more, you are coming out of your own personal darkness and stepping into your very beautiful and personal Light. And in those Lighter, Truer Moments, you are going to find you will receive more than you have allowed yourself to do before. More and more the opportunity to receive will be there. ...

But as much as you do allow and are conscious of your function of receiving, it just doesn't happen consistently enough. You can't trust it enough. You do not feel confident enough to rely upon the phenomenon of receiving. You just can't be intimate with it yet. You cannot be close to it, tender with it, vulnerable with it, and trusting of it to lean on it, to know it will be there when you need it to be, when you want it to be, when it has to be. And beyond this factor of consistency, trust, and confidence, there is also the Magic of Receiving.

The Magic of Receiving offers a whole new dimension of achievement, a whole new dimension of success. Yet as wonderful as that sounds, the Magic is frightening. Not terrifying, perhaps, but frightening. And it is frightening not because you cannot repeat it, for surely you can, but it is frightening because it is so unfathomable ... it's so abstract and mysterious. Indeed its magic seems to stretch beyond the very limits of language. And therefore, you deny yourself the very magic that could open doors and wide vistas of opportunity.

And as you have self-chosen a destiny as MapMaker, as Reality Creator, the next step out of darkness is to engage, to attract, to embrace the full body of the Magic of Receiving. ...

At first glance, Achievement and the Magic of Receiving seem to be in some ways almost at opposite ends of some sort of continuum. One is so active, and the other seems, by its nature, so passive. One seems to be at the source of causation; the other, at the end of allowing. One seems so dynamic, and the other seems so receptive.

But they are, in fact, much more alike than they are different. For truly so, receiving seems very passive at times, but (overtly or subtly) it is tremendously active. As well as being at the allowing end of the continuum, receiving is definitely at the causative end, too, for your willingness to receive can be the very energy that causes the reality you are seeking. And, in fact, the very "doing" energy in the Nature of Achievement also becomes the "doing" energy involved in the Magic of Receiving.

Receiving is an energy. It is not an insurance policy. It is not a guarantee of success.

Receiving is an energy to respect, to harness, to direct, to generate.

Receiving is a teeter-totter-like balance between disengaging the reluctance or refusal to receive and actively engaging and embracing the full body of what you truly want to receive. Receiving is neither friend nor foe, but will function as one depending upon whether you are your own friend or your own foe.

These clues are the same for Achievement as they are for Receiving -- and in these clues is tucked away the Magic of Receiving.

The First Clue

This first clue tells us that Receiving is an energy. Truly it is an energy that is alive, a vibrant and palpable energy. It exists not independently of you, but can and is, at times, separate from you. It is an energy you can step into very consciously or step out of very consciously. It is also an energy that you can step into and out of in what seems to be a less than conscious fashion. It has its boundary, its sphere of influence, its sphere of impact.

The first key to the phenomenon of Receiving is that you already know how to do it. You already do receive -- and not just the good stuff! You see, you do not need to learn how to receive. You need to learn the magic and the allowing, but you already know the function. You're doing it already.

Think for a moment about some constriction in your life, some failure, something that went wrong. Are you honestly going to tell us that you sat down and programmed for that - - that you sat down and said, "OK, how can I go about creating getting fired from my job? How can I create financial disaster? How can I possibly create an auto accident? How can I create an illness?" ... {laughter} ...

Did you go about trying to earn that despair? No, you didn't go about consciously creating those things in the sense of sitting down and making a decision about them. And that's often, ironically, one of the criticisms people have of the concept of creating your own reality. "Well, I didn't do it consciously." That's how it seems, because you create by causing, but you also create by allowing. And one of the many ways in which you allow is by receiving. When this happens, such creations are a product of your beliefs and attitudes, or of limited thoughts and feelings. It is a process of letting the reality show up as a function of receiving.

You already know how. You already know how. That's not the problem. The problem is directing it, respecting it, harnessing it, and guiding it. Just imagine what you could do if you could harness it. Look at how "effectively" -- and we use that word in a somewhat sarcastic and tongue-in-cheek way -- how effectively you can create messes in your reality ... {laughter} ... Just think about what you could do if you could use that dynamic of receiving to bring about only the positive things that you desire. Look at how you receive! If you could just turn that in a positive direction, just imagine what your reality could be.

The Second Clue

The second clue to understanding the magic is that receiving needs to be respected, harnessed, directed, and generated. If you don't respect the energy, you will overestimate it or underestimate it. Either way, you will start to take it for granted. And once you start taking the energy for granted, it becomes invisible. Think about that a moment: Whenever you take anything or anyone for granted, they begin to become invisible. You no longer see them: You see what you assume or what you project -- what you take for granted. The same is true of energy. Once invisible, you are not as conscious or as able to respond -- to be responsible -- in the way that you desire.

And you need to harness the energy, which means that you "own the energy" by owning your ability to use it as a tool to get from where you are to where you want to be. If you don't harness this energy, you will attempt to contain it, to possess it. Owning the ability to use the energy and attempting to contain the use of energy are two very different things. When you try to contain it, to make it "all mine and only mine" -- when you try to make it an end, in and of itself, rather than a means toward a grander and more glorious end -- you try to possess it rather than own its use. You try to control it rather than use it.

When you try to possess it, you become possessed by it. When you try to control it, you become controlled by it. And therefore, you are constantly searching for how to receive, but you never let yourself do it. You constantly feel insecure that someone might take your capacity to receive, so you dare not use it and show others that you have it.

If you don't direct the energy, then you will try to manipulate it. And when you try to manipulate receiving it tends to seem as though it evaporates or vanishes.

If you don't generate it, then you try to dominate it. And when you try to dominate receiving, as opposed to generating it, you become enslaved, constantly pursuing it but never finding it, never really knowing it.

The Third Clue

Thirdly, receiving is a balance between disengaging from the resistances to receiving and engaging and embracing the full body of what you want to receive. Sometimes receiving is not so pleasant, and the key to it is to become conscious. Becoming conscious of the receiving that is already happening -- whether it's good or bad, whether you like it or not -- is the third part to understanding and reaching the magic.

The Fourth Clue

And the fourth part is to understand this: Behind everything you do, whether positive or negative, the one consistent thread is that you want to be loved. That's what you're seeking behind everything you do. When you look at your life and you see the positives that you create -- the successes, the job opportunities, the relationships, the friendships, the health, the meditations, the clarity -- what are you really after? Are you really after the dollars in the bank? Are you really after the title after your name? Or isn't it that what you're really after is the love?

And so many keep that as an abstraction. But let that in: "I am after the love." Everything that you do that screws up, that becomes a problem, is your skewed attempt, but an attempt nonetheless, to get love. There is not an action that is not an attempt to get love, or to secure it once you have it. The most despicable things that are done in the world come down to wanting love. And the most beautiful things as well. That doesn't excuse certain behaviors, but it does explain them.

The fourth key to the magic is to admit the love you seek and the attempts to secure that love once you find it.

When you can understand these components, then you can approach understanding the phenomenon. Then you approach understanding the Magic. You see, receiving isn't just sitting there with your arms open, waiting. Receiving isn't refusing to take the steps because "I'm going to receive. I'm not going to program and process. I'm going to receive." Receiving isn't avoiding what needs to be done. "The yard needs to be mowed. I think I'll receive cut grass." ... {laughter} ... It's not about procrastinating or avoiding processing. It's not that sort of dull, passive energy. It can seem passive, certainly so, but it is also very active, very dynamic, very alive, a very active and very conscious choice.

The Resistances

The resistances do not only keep you from receiving. They also keep you from understanding the very components that are the clues. The resistances don't just manifest in the illusion. They are emotional states that manifest inside of you. ... The TRADITIONAL RESISTANCES are these ...

(1) You have been taught, conditioned (there is a difference between the two), manipulated, or threatened out of receiving.

Some of you have been very clearly taught. You were sat down as a child, and mother or father or "well-meaning" adult told you: "Now look. The only way to get ahead in this world is to claw your way to the top. Just do it for yourself. You can't let anybody help, because then you're going to be owing them." Often they were well-intentioned. They weren't deciding: "Let's see if we can't screw up this kid." But they did give you the message that life is not a gift, that you've got to earn anything and everything that's in it. Receiving is out of the question.

Some of you were conditioned. The words were never spoken, but they showed you through their actions, their philosophy, and the way they viewed the world. Others of you were manipulated. Others of you were out-and-out threatened: "Don't you do that!"

You were taught, conditioned, manipulated, or threatened into believing that to receive is weak, greedy, and selfish -- that it is just plain wrong.

(2) The Dark Shield and the Dark Law.

As a small child, and then again as an Adolescent, you developed this protective device to protect you from the pain, limiters, blockages, contracts, payoffs, and scripts that were forced upon you. You developed a shield, and that shield we call the Dark Shield, because it's made up, first of all, of shame, followed by the issues of deserving and guilt, and by mechanical, emotional, or physical additions. It is a Dark Shield of self-sabotage and self-punishment.

In a cosmic way, it is a very literal shield made up of these limited resources that were available to you at the time. And it did do its job. But it also blocks the positive energy. And therefore, with Shield in place, you resist receiving. It blocks the pain, but it also blocks receiving. And until that Shield is taken apart, it is difficult to receive, and it is almost impossible to do it consciously, consistently, with confidence and trust.

The Dark Law is that statement that brings order to the Dark Chaos. The Dark Chaos is the pain. The Dark Chaos is the ugliness. The Dark Chaos is the disappointment, despair, anger, rage, loneliness, hopelessness, and the shame itself. And to deal with the Dark Chaos, you create a Dark Law that says: "I can never be happy. I will never be successful. I will never find love. I will always try, but fall short. I have a Midas touch of death and destruction." Those very ugly laws -- absolute, singular statements -- give order to the Dark Chaos of your life, but they also blind you to the Light Chaos, which what receiving love is. The Magic of Receiving is abstract, unfathomable. It is mystical. It's a Light Chaos. And this Law that brings order to the Dark Chaos blinds you to the Light Chaos that receiving is.

(3) The Ego's Fantasy and Delusion. The ego's fantasy and delusion of grandeur is better-than or less-than, the flip sides of a coin called arrogance. "I want all the credit. If I'm going to create, I want to get all the credit. I don't want to have to share it with my Counselors, or my Higher Self, or my Unseen Friends. I don't want to have to share it with my Soul, with God/Goddess/All That Is. If I get this job, by God, I want it to be what I created all on my own." So receiving is a threat to the ego.

(4) Control. Another resistance is control itself -- the investment in the need to control, to manipulate, to be a martyr, to feign weakness with self-pity. If you want these agendas and the desire for vindication that becomes part of them -- if you want them more than you want to receive -- you will make a choice for them rather than a choice for receiving.

(5) Wanting To Earn It. There's nothing wrong with wanting to earn. There are a lot of wonderful things to earn in reality, certainly so. And you can also do things and get rewarded. But receiving is also one of those ways to go about creating the reality you want. It adds to your potentials of what you can do, because there are some things in life that you cannot earn, and you want those things, too. And the way those things come about is through receiving. If you're hooked on earning and being rewarded, you will see receiving as a threat -- not unlike the ego that sees it as a threat. Also, to earn and to be rewarded are more closely associated with a masculine energy. Receiving is a more feminine energy, and from the viewpoint of masculine energy, the feminine energy is a threat.

(6) The sixth resistance is the anger, bitterness, and resentment that you hold around love -- and yet at the same time you want it so completely. The fact of the matter is that the human nature is to love. While you're inside that set, that's sometimes difficult to see. But once you get outside the set, then you realize: "Of course. The human nature is to love." You can't help it. You will reach for it and always try to move toward it. The problem arises when you get terrified of it -because of the anger, the bitterness, the resentment, the humiliation, the rejection, the abandonment, and the betrayal that have been so associated with it. On one hand you are running away from it as fast as you can, and on the other hand you're trying to run toward it as fast as you can.

To avoid being torn apart, you end up substituting something in its place and calling it love. For example, you say love is suffering, and you prove your love by suffering, and expect others to suffer to prove their love by suffering as well. That's what martyrhood is. To answer the dilemma of wanting and not wanting love, all at the same moment, you redefine it. Therefore, love is suffering, or love is guilt. If you are so embittered and enraged, yet at the same time you are wanting love, you're going to resist receiving it.

(7) Resistance to Gratitude. You don't want to feel grateful, because you have been taught, conditioned, threatened, or manipulated into seeing gratitude as weakness. If you are grateful, it means that someone else did something better than you did, were nicer than you are, are more powerful than you are. To feel grateful is to admit that you are weak and they are strong. That, you believe, means you're not good enough. Now, none of that is true, but that is the belief system that makes it such that you don't want to be grateful. And therefore, you don't want to receive.

Many of you have worked with and truly have released these resistances, and yet there is still difficulty. The reception is not consistent and trustworthy enough, and you are not confident enough of it. And we would suggest there are also what we'll call more poignant reasons.

The Poignant Resistances

(1) You are so afraid you won't get love -- or that if you do, you'll lose it -- that you just don't trust love. You don't think that you can find love or that you can hold it. And to have it and to lose it would be so horrific, so painful, that you don't know if you could do it. Some of you have experienced great loss -- a person who died, or a loss through misunderstanding or indiscretion. And you realize that a love was lost, perhaps because you didn't respect it. And it hurt so badly that you feel you could not go through it again. Therefore, you don't want to receive. You do not want the Magic of Receiving. "I'll get by. I'll go without." Behind every constriction: You want to be loved. Fear of the love and of securing it is the reason many of you will not let yourself receive with a consistency.

(2) A second, less obvious reason is because you're clinging to the past -- to the child's projections, the adolescent's absolutes, the comparisons, the competitions, the hidden agendas, the insecurities and fears, the failures and pain -- all of which make up this backdrop of the past. Against this backdrop the concept of receiving is impossible or a fluke, because the child has eliminated receiving from its resources, and the adolescent answered the chaos with the blacks and whites of reality. And there's no room in competition and comparison for receiving.

(3) And the third and final of the less obvious reasons is because of pain. Pain is different than hurt. Pain is a separation and a longing. Hurt can be painful. Anger and fear can be very painful. But pain, in and of itself, is separate from them.

And pain separates you from yourself. It separates you from your very Soul. Not a complete severing, no. But it separates pieces of your Soul. In a sense, pieces of your Soul get lost when the pain is too much to bear. It doesn't die -- the Soul is immortal -- but it becomes separate. Fragmented pieces of Soul outline the path of pain.

Pain separates you. Pain causes fear. Pain causes stagnation and depletion. Even though receiving is a palpable, living energy, you don't have the energy to step into it, to allow it, to receive it. Pain is that debilitating. That is why we call it a spiritual challenge to heal that pain, to reconnect with those pieces of Soul, those fragments lost so long ago. As you can work with your pain, be it physical, emotional, mental or etheric, as you can repair the damage of that pain, then you can open up to receiving.

For some, that pain is so intense that it does paralyze and exhaust you so completely that to open up to receiving seems out of reach. And sometimes the pain is so intense you just can't muster enough of your own energy to step up to and into that very living, very palpable energy. And in your pain, you become your own foe, and receiving then functions like one.

So even as you release the more traditional resistances -- as many of you have (you've done beautifully in that regard) -- still you find yourself so frustrated, because you're still not receiving. Often it is these less obvious, more poignant resistances. The pain, the past, and the attempts to create and secure love stand in the way of receiving.

As you can understand and disengage the resistances, then truly so, you can engage that very magic that can afford you a whole new dimension of success and achievement ...

Techniques

The Magic of Receiving stretches beyond the words, but it is there, and it is in each of you. And you can use it and allow it to become a bigger, more profoundly important and magical part of you. If you're not quite ready to receive yet, you can let it rest there. Then, when you're ready, it can emerge, and you can use it as fully and completely as you like.

Now we want to give you some things that you can work with very concretely. Not that you have to take them all. Sometimes, as we've said, there are certain steps that are important: Start here, do these. But with the Magic of Receiving, you can work in a number of different ways, picking and choosing, working with what works for you.

Working with the Clues

The first step that we suggest is particularly for those of you who like to work consciously. This technique, we would suggest, is valuable if you like that concreteness. The first technique is to take the "clues" of receiving and work with them for yourself.

Receiving is an energy -- a palpable, living energy -- that you can step into and that you can step out of. What does that mean to you? What does it mean to you that it is an energy, that it is living, that it is palpable, that you can step into and out of it? Give it meaning. Give it value.

"It is an energy that I must respect." Now how can you do that? What does it mean for you to respect that energy? How do you show that respect, so that you don't take it for granted, so it doesn't become invisible? And how do you harness it? What does that mean? What's possession look like? What would that look like and feel like for you? Own what that means to direct that energy. What does it mean to generate that energy? How does that work for you? What does it mean that what you're really after is the love. Behind everything -- the most positive or the most negative, the most outlandish and the most obvious -- it's all about love. What meaning and value does that have specifically for you?

These components can have meaning, value, and they can matter. They can matter in your life.

And so you work with them, you play with them, you meditate on them, you talk to those intimates in your life about it. You get together with those friends you meet with in your spiritual circles, and you work with these ideas. Talk about what it means, and look for the limited beliefs or the errant thoughts that come with it so you can flesh it out and let it grow and expand so that it has meaning and value in your reality.

Clear the Resistances

The second thing, which is important perhaps for all of you in your own way to do, is to clear the resistances, both the mundane ones and the more poignant ones.

Really work with it. Sit down and say, "OK, look. My resistance is what I was taught. But I know that now. I'm not that child anymore. That authority, for whatever reason, taught me the wrong thing. Now I need to sit with that and make a decision that I can get off it, for to do otherwise is to manipulate." Now if you've just discovered it, that's a different matter. But if you are one who knows all there is to know about what your mother or father taught you, you can get off it now. You do not have to spend weeks working through it. You can get off it. To do otherwise is to let it become part of your manipulative self. You can walk away from it.

Similarly with the others: The ego's holdout for better-than or less-than. The arrogance that you get all the credit. Why? Why is that still so important.

You clear out those mundane or traditional resistances. But then look to what's deeper than that. Is it the pain? Is it clinging to the past? Or is it that tug-of-war between: "I'm so desperately wanting the love and so terrified that I won't find it, or that once I do, it'll be taken away." What can you do about that? You do not have to sit on that mushroom for the rest of your life. You don't have to stay there. You can change that. You can own it, really see it, and change it. You can let go of that past. You do not have to be a prisoner of it. You can rise to the spiritual challenge and heal the pain.

Create Your Own Ritual

The third technique -- and some of you will have a delightful time working with it -- is to create your own ritual. You may sit down with your Higher Self -- or just let yourself be imaginative and let your own intuition be your guide -- to create your own ritual of receiving. You may want to use the very meditation that's on this tape -- where you cross the four different terrains -- which represent the experience of the Four Elements. You may want to adapt that, change it slightly, or use your own intuition to make that into a very personal ritual that you can do with a certain regularity. Some of you who worked with us with The Seven Rituals of Success [a Lazaris workshop], and one of those rituals was that of receiving, which involved various magic papers and bundles and working with the particular chakra centers. You may want to integrate or incorporate some of those techniques.

Or, you do some sort of ritual where you open the chakra centers and let them be flooded with an energy of receiving, by whatever ritualistic way you want to do this. Ritual means a dance that you do, a repeated pattern that gives your Unconscious and your Subconscious a message, that lets your Higher Self and your physical self know: "Oh, this is what they do when they want to receive love." And in that sense, therefore, you will.

Giving Without Duty & Obligation

The fourth technique we suggest will be wonderful for some of you. For others of you it's not going to be something you want to do, and that's fine. This one is the most delicate and intricate of techniques.

And it is this: That you ever so gently begin to give without any duty or obligation, without any particular cause or effect in mind, without any expectation of getting something back. What you're going to do is just give someone something. It doesn't have to be financial. It can be a note, a letter, a phone call. It can be very intangible, in that particular regard. But you're going to give to them not because it's their birthday, or Christmas, or any particular holiday, or as a thank-you gift for something they did for you. There is not going to be any duty or obligation involved in this. There's not going to be cause and effect. No reason like, "You've really earned this," or, "This is my way of saying thank you." No. Just because you want to give. No cause. No effect. No duty. No obligation.

Nor do you expect that because of this, you are going to receive, you see? "I'm going to give to you, and I'm going to give a whole bunch. You, you, you, and you! And then I'll receive a whole bunch!"

Well, in fact, that'll happen, but that's not what you want to do it for. Because then it becomes earning, or it becomes reward. What you want to do is create the resonance. Create the resonance. Because what happens here is that now there's a person who is receiving without earning, without deserving, with no reward attached. And what you're doing is creating a resonance whereby receiving is possible. All resonance creation begins with the possible.

"They're receiving."

"Well, they're doing it because I'm the one giving it to them!" ... {laughter} ...

But they're doing it, aren't they? They're creating the reality of receiving for no particular reason at all. And that means that if you could give it to them, you can give it to you.

Does that mean you go out and buy a card that says I love you very much and mail it to yourself? ... {laughter} ... No. But you can just open to let yourself, your Higher Self, give to you without duty, without obligation, without any particular cause or effect in mind, without any expectation that you have got to give back.

What's the phrase? "If there's one white crow, then one cannot say all crows are black." If you can create one other person who is receiving then you have created a resonance where receiving is possible. Receiving becomes, therefore, a resonance that you can generate.

Now as we say, it's delicate, because it's easy to slip into the place: "Now, when am I going to receive? When's it my turn?" Then the technique becomes something other than what it was intended to be. So work with this one only if it makes sense to you -- only if it is exciting to you.

The Disk of Receiving

The fifth technique that we suggest is to work very specifically with that disk which you receive in the meditation. You do not necessarily have to work in that meditation, but imagine the disk in one of your higher chakra centers -- the third would be the lowest one to use. There you find this disk of energy, and it's a color, a specific color. The color doesn't have to match the chakra center it's in, and you can use a full range of colors. It may be a most wonderful fuchsia. It may be a most incredible lime green.

When you want to receive love, when you are tending to get a little edgy or a little shaky on your ability to actually receive, you can close your eyes and allow yourself to imagine that disk. Perhaps it is no bigger than a quarter; perhaps it's the size of a hockey puck. Let it come to the surface of the chakra in which it is enveloped; then let it project out and expand. Or toss it into the air and let it tumble and spin. Suspended there, it then grows to become this big disk.

Then from its center, it begins to open. Then you can step into it, and allow yourself to be totally enveloped in the most wonderful and beautiful awareness that you truly are loved. Really let yourself be filled. Forgive yourself for not having received it yet, and just be filled, just be filled, just be filled. And then step out, close it, put the disk back into the chakra where it belongs.

If, in your excitement you forget to put it back, it will find its way home. ... {laughter} ... "Oh, my gosh! I lost the disk!" ... {laughter} ... "Wouldn't that be just like me! Absolutely. Everybody else goes around tucking it away neatly. I leave it out there!" ... {laughter} ... "Who knows who's got it now! The neighborhood dog probably stole it." ... {laughter} ... "Now they're getting fed better and taken care of better than anybody. ... They took my disk." ... {laughter} ...

So it will find its way home, but the idea is to close it and put it back. It's part of the respect, part of the honoring, of that particular energy. The technique of the disk is incredibly powerful, beautifully powerful. The more you do it, the better it gets.

Receiving the Ability to Receive

A sixth technique that we recommend is one that seems so obvious once we say it, and that is to receive receiving.

Maybe what you want to do is to say to your Higher Self, "Look, I'm having one devil of a time receiving. So the first thing I want to receive is the ability to receive more elegantly. I know how to do it. I don't know exactly how I know, but I do know how to do it. But I need to do it more elegantly, and that I don't know, so I want to receive that."

Work with your Higher Self, perhaps going into a meditation and just saying, "Here I am. Do what you have to do. You don't have to tell me. I don't need to approve. Just do what you have to do so that I can receive." Let yourself receive the receiving from your Higher Self, from your Counsellors, from the very energy of receiving itself -- so very palpable and alive as it is.

Give it Value, Let it Matter

What is important here as the last of the techniques we recommend is this: When you do generate something by receiving, give it value, give it meaning, let it matter.

So often what happens here is someone may say to you: "Do you realize what you just did? Do you realize what you just created? My goodness, look at what you let yourself receive!" And you say: "Yeah, that's pretty neat." And then you go on to something else.

Wait a minute! Give it some time. Let it sink in. You get so embarrassed, in that particular sense, so spotlighted and visible that you don't want to be that vulnerable. But you need to stop and realize: "Look what I did. Look what we did." Additionally, take that thing that you generated through receiving and amplify it, express it, let yourself absorb it, let yourself digest it. Let it nurture you. Let it have meaning.

How did you do that? Ask yourself: What state of mind were you in? Not that you want to replicate that every time, but you want to be alert to it, aware of it. What did you do here? What was the difference that you let this one in and not that one? Expand upon it so that it has meaning, so that it has value, so that it matters, so that you start developing that image in yourself: "I'm somebody who can elegantly receive, and I'm doing it more and more. That's who I am. That's who I am becoming."

So let it in when you're reminded, "Hey, look what you received. Look at that. You didn't earn that. You didn't do that by some trickery. You received that."

"Wow! Yeah, I did. I received it." Let it in. Let it become a part of you. Because as you do that, then you create the space, you create the resonance where indeed you will receive more and more and more and more.

And ultimately, then, as we've said so many times:

Life is a gift from God/Goddess/ All That Is. And yours is to learn to receive it. Receiving is, in its way, the highest form of achievement and creating. And that is what you are here to do in the thousands of lifetimes you have. The gift is given. Yours is to receive it. And as you can work the magic, allow the magic, receive the magic, so then the reception of what life is, and of the glorious gifts that it can be, becomes ... unending.

With love and peace ... Lazaris

 

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Welcoming Crystals to Your Keeping

Thursday, December 17, 2015
Blog: Welcoming Crystals to Your Keeping

By Lazaris

All right. All right. Well, well, oh my. Yes. Oh, what a pleasure and what a joy it is to be with you – working and exploring with you and loving with you. Welcome.

During this Year of Opportunity, within this the most monumental decade in the history of humankind on Earth, we talk of a Great Awakening. We talk of it now; many will be talking of it as the next several years unfold.

Years ago we suggested that a Great Awakening was coming. It is now upon you. We have talked of this awakening as a tri-polar energy attempting to become a uni-polar force.

We have suggested that the Domain of the Spiritual is awakening. At the dew line of its consciousness, the Enlightened Beings and the Exceptional Ones from all ages and the Shining Ones of Sirius herald the return of the Goddess and of the Light She brings.

The field of play – Earth, called Gaia by some – is awakening. At her dew line of consciousness, crystals awaken, demanding to participate – demanding to be part of the creation of a New World that is now destined to be.

The complexity of individuality is awakening. At its dew line of consciousness, those such as you – the Mapmakers and Magicians of your current age – awaken more deeply than you have awakened before.

A tri-polar energy – the Shining Ones of Sirius, Crystals and their consciousness, and Mapmaking Magicians – is coming together, attempting to become a uni-polar force. Yes, there is a Great Awakening about. Yes, there is a Great Awakening happening. And you are part of it. You are part of the equation; you are part of the mix.

And out of it all, crystals are coming alive in your reality. You are reawakening your old wisdom as well as your ancient arcane mastery and artistry. You are awakening your crystal workings once again. Many crystals that you once knew in Lemuria – the Land That Imagination Forgot – and in Atlantis – the Land That Was Lost though it was never forgotten – are coming back to you. They are coming, once again, to be in your keeping and under your guardianship.

So we offer you a means of welcoming. We offer you this conscious reading-meditation to do when you come upon a new crystal or to do with a crystal already within your keeping. Before you continue, get that new or to-be-renewed crystal. Have in near. Have it close. Have it there before you.

And now relax. Relax as you read these words. Relax.

Be conscious of your breathing as your eyes gaze gently upon the page. Relax. Slow your breathing. Relax ... Slower ... Relax ...

Slower ... still ... slower ... still ...

Hush.

Eyelids heavy. Be still. Enter the hush. Enter the silence. Enter. Still.

Eyelids heavy, eyes partly closed. Be still. Enter the hush. Enter the silence. Enter. Still. Enter ...

Imagine.

In the hush, in the stillness, imagine. In the gentle gaze, behind the quiet haze, imagine.

Imagine that you are in your safe place. Allow your imagining, rich with thought and feeling, to flow as you sense yourself there. You are there. In your safe place, you are there. Imagine.

Imagine. Open your senses one by one or several at a time. Sense the colors, sense the shapes, of the sky and earth and of the terrain – of all that is in between. Imagine. Imagine the lights and the shadows. Open to the sights of safety.

Imagine. Open to the subtle sounds – to sounds that ears may not hear. Listen. Listen to the sounds of safety.

Imagine. Open to the gentle bouquet – to the fragrance – to the smells of safety.

Yes, touch ... taste.

Imagine the touch and taste of safety.

And you are safe. And you are safe. Safe.

As your eyes traverse these words, you are safe. And you can feel it now, can’t you? You can feel the presence of your Higher Self. All around, within and without, you sense the presence of your Higher Self. You can feel it now. You can sense them now. However vivid or vague, you sense your Higher Self with you. Let it happen; let it be.

They touch you.

Your Higher Self touches you. They touch your heart, and you feel a gentle pressure there upon your sternum bone. They touch your mind, and you feel a gentle pressure there upon your brow. Feel it. Allow it. Imagine. Imagine. Imagine.

In a moment your eyes will fully close, and while you slowly count seven deep and rich breaths, your Higher Self will deepen your senses. When you open your eyes again, your sensing will be deeper. Richer. More profound.

Close your eyes. Your eyes close and you count ...

With a gentle gaze you see these words again. In a silent haze, you see these words again. Imagine.

Turn your eyes to that crystal now. Slowly, you embrace it with your hands. Hold it tenderly. Hold it gently.

Speak to the crystal with your eyes. In the hush, speak with your touch. Speak with your eyes. Say what you want to say. Say from your heart and mind; speak with your eyes and touch.

Now ...

Touch the majesty and magnificence. Open your senses to the majestic and the magnificent of this stone – of this consciousness in crystalline form. Open your senses to this crystal as you did to your safe place. Open to the sight, sound, and smell of its majesty; open to the touch and taste of its magnificence. Experience.

Sense a personal connection and a personal relationship between you two. Know that you can work together. You have found each other. You have found each other for the first time, or you have found each other once again. Open to the sight, sound, and smell of this connection; open to the touch and taste of this union and reunion.

A feeling comes, and thoughts begin to flow. … There are treasures and precious gifts waiting for you. When you and this crystal work as one, there are so many truths to be revealed and treasures to be unveiled. There are so many gifts that can precipitate from dream to reality – from creation to manifestation. There is a bounty in this connection. Welcome it. Welcome it.

Now there comes an alignment. You can sense it, can’t you? Wait. Be still.

You can sense it, can’t you?

Feel the alignment of consciousness between you at the dew line of human consciousness and this crystal at the dew line of Earth consciousness. You are a consciousness who has chosen a human vehicle to express and reflect who you truly are. This crystal is a consciousness, too. This crystal is a consciousness that has chosen a crystalline vehicle to express and reflect who it truly is.

Say hello. Say it with your touch; say it with your eyes. From the depth of your heart and mind, say hello.

Now lift the crystal to touch your sternum bone, and let it touch your heart. If it is too large to lift, lower yourself to allow this majestic one to touch your heart. Listen. Be touched.

Now lift this crystal to touch your brow, and let it touch your mind. Or lower your head – bow – to allow this magnificent one to touch your mind. Listen. Be touched.

Imagine.

Imagine.

Imagine.

Sense that "something more" between you. Experience beyond where words have been and beyond where words can go.

Experience.

And say, "Hello."

When you are ready, take a sharp and strong breath.

Breathe!

Open your eyes wide and full. You are awake. You are awake. You are awake in ways beyond what you may know. You are awake!

You are back here in the room with pages in your hand. Be awake. Be alert, alive, vibrantly awake, alert, and alive.

This reading-meditation can become a personal ritual for welcoming the crystals that come to you for keeping and for your guardianship. Just as you can use this method to personally welcome a new or renewed crystal, you can also use this means to say goodbye to a crystal.

From time to time, you will know that your watch is over. You know that it is time for this crystal to move along, to be kept and guarded by another. Often you express this knowing by giving a gift of a crystal to a friend. You can say goodbye to a crystal in a similar fashion.

As you acknowledge crystals – as you honor them with respect–they will acknowledge, honor, and respect you. Then the magic you can work …

Ah, the magic you can work together can be majestic. It can be magnificent. It can be the high magic that is sourced – not resourced, but sourced – in love, and whose only technique is choice.

It can be a magic beyond compare; it can be a magic beyond words.

Welcome.

As we close, we welcome you.

With love and peace,

Lazaris

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Healing: The Journey from Illness to Health

Thursday, December 17, 2015
Blog: Healing: The Journey from Illness to Health

By Lazaris

We’re going to focus attention on what illness is and how to correct it, but it is important to begin with the essential question: What is Health?

Most people don’t really know what it is, but it’s important to know. To be effective in your healing of yourself or others, you need something to move toward, not just something to run away from.

It’s also important to understand what health is because you need some standard by which to judge whether you’ve established a state of health effective enough to move on. You see, you have healing that takes place on the physical body, but there’s also the mental body, the emotional body, and the psychic body – which are parts of the Limited Self. Beyond the Limited Self is the synergy of the limited components which is the Spiritual Self. It is also in need of healing. Beyond that Spiritual Self are the Soul and Higher Consciousness, which are healthy. But your RELATIONSHIP with them needs healing, and to be established in a state of good health.

So what is health?

Health is the moving toward, and the fulfillment of, learning to have fun and consciously creating success.

Health includes the freedoms, gifts, actions, and joys of living that you give to yourself and then … and then … give to and inspire in others.

Health is the means to the end – the way that you succeed, not just that you did. It’s the way you acquire your freedom, the way you acquire the gifts of life, the way you take action, the way you experience and express your joy.

Good health is the aliveness – aliveness with love, trust, expectancy and enthusiasm – with which you live your life and explore your reality.

Health is the means that you use to reach that expanding, embracing, living, loving relationship with God/Goddess/All That Is. Health is the means of your spirituality. Health is establishing the greatest freedom, which is responsibility … establishing the greatest gift, which is choice and subsequently decision … establishing the greatest act, which is to love yourself and others, to be loved by yourself and others … establishing the greatest joy, which is healing yourself and then others. Health is seeking the greatest or the highest truth.

Health is knowing how to have fun, knowing how to consciously create success. It starts with the moving toward, and completes with the knowing of how to have fun and how to consciously create success.

Those are the criteria of the ever-changing, ever-expanding state of awareness and realization that is health. Now we’re going to talk about illness, and we’re going to talk about healing. That’s the juicy stuff, yes?

Illness is disorientation, alienation, disorder, and/or failure. Illness is also the coded messages that your Higher Aspects are trying to communicate to you. Therefore, when you develop an illness, if you don’t pay attention to those messages, then all you’re doing is manipulating symptoms.

It’s ironic. New Age healers are very critical of the allopaths (AMA-type doctors) because all they do is treat symptoms. True enough; the criticism is well-founded. But if alternative-method healers do not help you find the answers to those messages, then all they’re doing is treating symptoms as well.

True healers will help you discover what illness is saying to you, and help you answer those messages. It doesn’t matter whether they work with acupuncture, acupressure, crystals, psychic surgery, massage and running energy, laying on of hands, or spontaneous healing. The true healer is going to work with the cause of the illness, the messages that are there, and then will find a particular way of focusing that energy for the return of good health.

So what are the messages your Higher Self tries to give you? How can you interpret them? You don’t have to go ask someone. You can figure them out yourself.

The First Step of Healing: The Seven Questions To Ask & Answer

One: “What is the message my Higher Aspects are trying to give me?”

Two: "What’s this feedback that I’m getting?"

You see, illness is not just the message. It is also feedback. You will give yourself feedback when you’re screwing up in your reality. When your dear policeman keeps stopping you for going too fast, that’s feedback to slow down and be more careful. How many of you have gotten a speeding ticket and then have proceeded to screw something up 10 or 20 or 30 minutes later? The body similarly gives you feedback. “I have an ache or a stiffness or something that’s telling me to slow down.”

Three: “What are the conflicting beliefs and attitudes that are creating this static and interference in my reality?” That is what illness is, also: static and interference that let you know you aren’t on a clear channel. You have conflicting beliefs, not the least of which is the fact that you are striving so quickly to grow and to finally move beyond this physical body, and at the same time you believe that death is bad. That’s a conflict. Those two beliefs rub wrong, creating friction, static, and interference.

Four: “What is the manipulation or potential manipulation this illness is?”

This is a toughie. This is one you’re not going to want to look at, particularly if you’re not feeling well, which is often the case when you’re ill, yes? … (laughter) …

“Not me! My back really does hurt. My arm really is broken. I really am bleeding.” It’s, well, true but what is the present or potential manipulation? We’ll give you that little bit of room, yes? … (laughter) … And that’s an important question to answer. And you know, there’s always an answer. Some of the questions don’t always have answers, admittedly. But this one does. The first one, the fourth one, and the last one always have answers. There’s always a manipulation, or a potential manipulation based on the way in which you handle yourself from this point forward.

Five: “What could I be releasing or relieving from my reality?”

Sometimes as you work through something and begin to release it, it will have an illness effect upon the body. The “illness” you have may be a way of releasing something from your present, past, future, or some other lifetime. There are other ways to do it, but this is the way you chose. If you can understand that, you can decide if you want to continue to release it this way or if you’d prefer a different way. This is another question that may not have an answer.

Six: "How is my body cooperating with my programming?"

This one also may not have an answer. Sometimes, when your programming’s off or doesn’t make sense to your subconscious mind, a Higher Aspect of yourself may respond with a reaction in the physical form to let you know that it’s not going anywhere.

This doesn’t necessarily refer only to outward programming that you sit down and do in your meditations. This can be the programming of the other 23-½ hours of your day … “I wish I could begin again. I wish I could just start all over again.” That’s programming. And your body may well be cooperating by giving you cancer, because that’s what cancer does. It reverses the growth of the cells. They stop growing and functioning normally, and start returning to a womb-like state.

Seven: “What lesson(s) could I learn, or am I learning, from this illness?”

See, everything doesn’t happen for the best. Everything happens. As long as it does, you might as well turn it into the best thing you can …

If you ask yourself these seven questions, and answer them honestly, you will have taken the first very giant step toward healing. And if you can’t figure it out for yourself, you can get some help from your friends: your counselors, Spiritual Self, Higher Consciousness. You also have a synchronistic reality that is constantly giving you feedback. It’s a matter of listening and paying attention.

The Healing Process

So what is involved in healing?

The first step we’ve talked about. Ask yourself the seven questions. That’s the first step, and a giant step, most definitely.

Second step: Process and program. We know there are those who are telling you that you don’t have to process anymore, that all you have to do is declare your intention and that’s it. There are many who are wanting to give you simple, simple, simple little formulas for being spiritual. But when you find out they’re wrong, they’re not going to be there to tell you why they lied to you. … After you hear the messages and understand them, process them through. Clear them out of your system.

Third step: Select a healing modality. What methods of healing do you want to use? You make that decision. Don’t throw your hands up and say, “Whatever, whomever. I’m just going to wander in the maze of illness until somebody comes along and does it to me.” You make those choices. You make those decisions.

The fourth step is the most important and most determined step. It’s the one where you can screw up, or where you can really get into some marvelous freedom. The fourth step is that you make the decision to return to health. Ultimately, the decision is the healer. You can go to any healer, however powerful, but if you have not decided to get back on the pathway of health instead of stagnating in illness, they aren’t going to be able to help you. You have to make the decision!

And the decision needs to be made after you’ve taken the first three steps. You see, you don’t just start out, “I’ve decided I’m going to get healed.” First, figure out what the messages are. Then do the processing and programming. Then you make the selection of what modality you’re going to use. And THEN you make the decision: “I’m going to be healed.”

And fifth step: You participate in the healing. You don’t just drag your weary body in and lie it down on the healing table and say, “Do it to me.” You participate with aliveness, love, trust, expectancy, and enthusiasm. “I’m too exhausted.” Then give what you’ve got of these energies, because you must participate in a living way. You can’t just lie there like a limp noodle and expect any long-lasting or serious results.

Sixth step: Program and process again at a deeper level. If the fact that it takes time concerns you, how serious is your decision? How alive, expectant and enthusiastic are you? How much love and trust is really there?

And seventh: Move back into that dynamic aliveness that is your good health. Having learned what you needed to learn from the messages, leave the illness behind, moving out of it into the dynamic flow of health.

That’s what takes place in healing. The power of healing is immense. And there are many, many methods, as we suggest. And one or several of them are right for you.

With love and peace ...
Lazaris

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Learning To Have Fun and Consciously Creating Success

Thursday, November 12, 2015
Blog: Learning To Have Fun and Consciously Creating Success

By Lazaris

The Two Major Focuses of Every Lifetime ...

When Lazaris has spoken of Life Focuses he has always said that people have seven of them in every lifetime, varying from person to person and from lifetime to lifetime, depending upon what they want to be doing any particular time. There are two focuses, however, that are part of every lifetime we have: Learning To Have Fun and Learning To Consciously Create Success. This excerpt from Lazaris Interviews: Book II (out of print) is about these two, which are always part of every incarnation.

Learning To Have Fun

"What is the purpose of life? ... What is my task? Why am I here? ... Why am I physical? What is my mission?"

You are haunted by this desire to know. Deep within your brain stirs the thought that if you just knew the answer to one of these questions, then everything else would make sense. Your heart echoes with feelings that a satisfactory answer would make everything ... absolutely everything ... all right.

Your purpose, your mission, your task -- or, as we prefer to say, your focus -- can be stated with disarming ease. The prime reason you are here: To learn to have fun.

Yes. That's it. You are here to learn to have fun! You have created a physical form and a physical world to put it in. You have created all of your reality to give yourself the opportunity to learn -- to learn to have fun.

The critics and detractors pounce upon that statement as proof of the shallowness and hedonism of the New Age. They either get angry at the apparent lack of social responsibility, or they dismiss the idea as the emptyheaded "fad philosophy" of this yuppie "sport" called the New Age.

Many who consider themselves part of the alternative spirituality of the New Age want the purpose, the task, the mission to be more serious or to at least sound more spiritual. Missions should be loftier. A purpose of connecting with your Higher Self or becoming one with the Source sounds much more reasonable. It sounds much more valuable and viable.

At first glance, these criticisms seem to have merit. Upon further investigation the kind of fun we are talking about, the kind of fun you are attempting to learn, is valuable and totally viable. We are talking about the kind of fun derived from accomplishing the lessons you have selected to experience and fulfilling the destinies you have chosen to explore. Your spiritual focus -- your spirituality -- is all about your living, breathing, loving, embracing relationship with God/Goddess/All That Is. This is what learning to have fun is all about.

Your purpose, mission, task -- your focus -- is not only about achievement; it is also about the means of achieving. It is not just about succeeding -- it is also about the way in which you succeed. You can grow through the struggles and hardships of life. Some of you needed to do that. Some still feel the need to struggle and suffer. However, you also have the choice to grow through the love and the laughter.
Which is going to be more fun? Both of them will "get you there," but which is going to be more fun? Everyone, regardless of their spirituality or their claimed lack of it, has the same purpose, task, mission, the same focus: Learning to have fun.

Certainly the desire to reach a heaven, whether it is a literal place or a state of mind, is a desire to have fun. Certainly a desire to connect with your Higher Self or with the Source is a desire to have fun -- a postponed desire perhaps, but still a desire to have fun. For the Christian, certainly being on the right side of the rapture is a goal of having fun. No matter how much struggle you think is required -- no matter how painful the path you decide you must have, the goal, the culmination of your learning, is to reach a state of peace. Peace. That's fun!
There are four keys to understanding this primary focus.
First, learn. The focus is not just "to have fun" -- it's to learn. It is: To learn to have fun. Learning means recognizing and acknowledging that you are the creator of all the possibilities, probabilities, and actualities of your reality. It involves figuring out what you did "right" and "wrong." Learning to have fun means being responsible for what "works" in your life. It means figuring out the "why's" and the "how's" of reality creation so that the fun you have is the fun you know you created. It is self-generated fun. You never have to wonder if it will last, because you create it -- you are the source of the fun, then the happiness, and finally the joy you are having in your life.

Second, define. Define fun continuously. Fun is not static. Being fluid, it always changes. When you were six, you had very distinct ideas of what a fun day was all about. Now those same ideas would seem ridiculous. Your current concepts of fun are unique. As you unfold your future, your current pictures of fun will also change. It is vital that you define and redefine what you mean by "fun" and what you mean by having it.

Third, balance. Despite the parental "tape-loops" inside your head mumbling something about beds that you must sleep in and cakes you cannot eat, it is important to balance. It is up to you to choose and decide not only what's fun, but when it's fun. For some, a "pizza and a six-pack" may not only sound like a fun idea -- at the time, it might be the essence of fun! Yet, at another time it would be the antithesis. It is up to you to balance the long-term fun and the short-term pleasures. It is up to you to distinguish among the inner-child's, adolescent's, young-adult's, and the spiritual adult's sense of: "What's fun?"

Learning to have fun is not just about being at the right place at the right time, knowing where the best parties are on a Friday night, or about knowing the right people. It is about learning, defining, and balancing self-generated fun. It is about creating your own reality and being positively responsible for that creation.

Fourth, deserve. The final key to understanding the prime focus of having fun is also the major blockage to its fulfillment.

You can learn, define, and even balance what is fun for you. You can process and program. You can work with a myriad of techniques. You can be responsible and enjoy the power implicit within that responsibility. You can learn and work through the psychological and metaphysical obstacles that separate you from the reality you ask for.

However, if you don't think you deserve, all the above are intellectual exercises fast becoming exercises in frustration and futility. The lack of deserving permeates your beliefs and attitudes, your thoughts and feelings, and your choices and decisions. You do not feel you deserve. A primary focus that seems easy enough to accomplish has just been moved out of reach. Because it is beyond your belief and therefore your choice, "you can't get there from here."
There are several powerful reasons why deserving is outside the belief-choice matrix.
1. You were taught. You were taught by parents, teachers, spiritual leaders, and peers that you do not deserve -- especially you do not deserve to have fun. These sources of learning were not necessarily ill-intentioned. Much of what they taught you was what they learned and what they thought would "protect" you from a world they didn't understand and therefore a world that seemed to be "the enemy." They did not want you to get your hopes up and have them dashed. They did not want you to get hurt, so they taught you that you did not deserve. Sometimes, they were ill-intentioned. Out of jealousy, possessiveness, and fear, some did intend to imprison you in their limitations. Whichever, you were taught, and you can "un-teach" yourself now.
2. You are haunted by angers, hurts, and resentments of the past. Separate from what you were innocently or maliciously taught, many are followed by the specter of the past. As a child you were so angry you wished your mother was dead. You numbed your hurt with hate. You harnessed the anguish with resentment. Lonely, you punished yourself. You decided you did not deserve to be happy. Ever! You still live by that decision. You are haunted by the past.
3. You feel guilty. The guilt you may feel can be sourced in fact and fantasy, or it can be unsourced in the belief that you are guilty just by being alive. Perhaps you were taught; perhaps you were conditioned. Now you feel guilty. According to you, you do not deserve. The possibility of happiness, the possibility of having fun, is frightening. It is a threat. This is where your lack of deserving lies if you find yourself feeling guilty when things go wrong and even worse -- guiltier -- when things go right. Are you constantly apologizing for being here -- for being alive?
4. You are caught in a "catch-22" of deserving. You come to realize that the lack of deserving is the problem. You are eloquent and articulate about all the reasons you don't deserve. You have even worked at relearning what the inner-child erroneously learned. You have released the haunting angers, hurts, resentments, and you have freed yourself from guilt. Yet you still don't feel you deserve. Why?

Because, you tell yourself, if you deserved, you'd have figured it out long ago! You say you don't deserve because you still feel undeserving. You continue by telling yourself that if you were a person who was meant to feel deserving, you would have done it already. Wrapped in a negative ego of, "I'd hate to admit it," you are caught in a "catch-22" reality.

Often, there is a feeling of foolishness: "I should already know this. I should already have done this." Believe us, you will only feel more foolish to wait even another month. If you feel foolish now, how much more foolish are you going to feel a year from now?

Admit your foolishness and your embarrassment. Break the "catch- 22" by realizing you are not alone. Everyone feels the lack of deserving. It is part of your human condition. It is part of what you are learning through the lens, through the focus, of learning to have fun.
5. You are depressed. Depression is anger that you fear you will get in trouble for having. Many who are depressed in their marriages or relationships are often angry, but fear reprisals should they talk about it. Many who dread going to work because their jobs depress them are really saying they are angry, but actualization carries intolerable consequences. The anger that seeds depression can build over many months or many years, or it can come from quick and sudden change. One of the ways you suppress -- repress -- depress -- that anger is by denying fun. You deny it by refusing it, or by choosing to believe that it is outside the realms of possibility or probability. Either way, it is beyond your reach.
6. You lack perfection. You have made mistakes, and you have not forgiven yourself. Perhaps you are waiting for others to forgive you or to apologize to you. Perhaps you have decided that you are unforgivable. Whatever you tell yourself, you have concluded that you do not deserve to have fun. Erroneously, you have decided that you can have fun once you are perfect, and not before. Since you already have made a mistake, you are doomed. If you can discover the arrogance rather than feel the self-pity of this position, you can be free of it.
7. You decided you do not love "good enough." Like the lack of deserving you were taught, many of you have concluded that you simply do not love "good enough." In many situations, the Human Potential Movement and the ensuing metaphysics have fostered that conditioning. Many have decided that humankind as well as they, individually, have a fatal flaw -- an original sin of sorts -- of an inability to love. Because they can't love, or can't love "good enough," they do not deserve anything -- especially, they do not deserve to have fun. Nor, according to them, does anyone else.

We realize we have not offered concrete solutions and resolutions to these obstacles to your deserving. Knowing what stops you -- knowing the hurdles and where they are -- can be the first step in finding your own solutions.

Having fun is not the glib and shallow concept so many want to think it is. It sounds simple enough, yet your reality belies that suspected simplicity. After so many lifetimes, fun and learning how to have it seem as elusive as ever.

Having fun involves learning to create your reality, defining the means and the ends you wish to achieve and acquire, balancing the future and the present against the backdrop of the past, and most of all it involves allowing yourself to feel, and then be, deserving.
Learning To Consciously Create Success

The other essential purpose, mission, or task -- or, as we call it, focus -- is as important and as illusive as the first. The second focus: To learn to consciously create success.

You see, it is not just about being successful. It is about learning. It is about being conscious. It is about defining exactly what success is for you.
Creating your own reality is something you do whether you are conscious of it or not. Everyone consciously creates their own reality. Some, lost in the labyrinth of ignorance or naivete, do not know it. Others, caught in the web of fear and ridicule, deny it. Many, trapped in the paralysis of being in potentia, wish it were true. Regardless, you do create your own reality.

Conscious creation of reality is how you function. Conscious creation of success is where you focus.

We do not want to examine the entire arena of creating success. That has been done. The bookshelves of your reality are replete with the "how-to's" of success.

We want to plant seeds of consideration to help you more clearly understand what success really is for you, and how to more concretely be able to consciously create it for yourself. To begin, we must look at what success isn't. Many of you don't really know what success is. It is one of those concepts that you are supposed to "just know." Potential humiliation overrules curiosity. Without clear understanding you continuously seek and never find success.

In lieu of clarity you accept the consensus reality definitions thinking that success means greater intelligence, more deserving, and "better than." You assume success entails competing with others and conquering scarcity. Success is concomitant with perfection in action and intention.

Initially, this sounds acceptable -- even preferable. In time, you realize that you are not meeting these standards. No matter how intelligent you are, there are those who are smarter. You don't feel deserving. No matter how persuasive you are, no matter how many others you convince, you cannot convince yourself that you deserve -- that you really deserve. No matter how tightly you hold on to your "better thans," they keep slipping through your fingers. Competing and conquering are not only exhaustive, they're boring. You are not perfect. You are not perfect. No, you're not.

To stop the erosion, you simplify your consensus reality definitions. Success means having more and better than, being more and better than, doing more and better than. Success means more ... !

Shuddering at the prospect of failure, you take a deep breath, you steel yourself, and you dive in again. Rather than realizing that the definitions are incorrect, you try again to make them work for you. Some will spend their whole lives on this merry-go-round reaching for a brass ring that isn't there. Never was, never will be.

"Um-pa-pa, Um-pa-pa." There is no end. What success you do create feels like a fluke that can be snatched away at any moment. As much as failure is painful, success is more frightening. There is not real success on the merry-go-round.

Some reluctantly get off the carousel by being knocked off with the hard edge of failure. They judge, punish, and conclude that they are no good. They feel and are convinced that they "blew it - - it's too late."

Then there are those who are forced off the carousel by getting caught in the soft voice of self-delusion or by getting lost in the mirrored maze of grandeur. They convince themselves that they have met the criteria. The euphoria is eventually replaced with the haunting hollowness: "Is this all there is?"

A few, a very few, consciously climb off the merry-go-round by releasing the consensus reality definitions. Admitting that they do not know what success is, they then search for new meaning and create their own definitions of success -- of their success.

The most effective way to define success in a way that the definition can be your definition, is to lay forth the core -- the backbone -- the backbone of what success is. The skeleton of success is just that: a skeleton. You must give it life by adding the flesh and blood, the muscle and nerve, and the thinking and feeling of success. You must breathe life into these pieces of the puzzle called success.

Not surprisingly, there are seven basic components to being successful. You all know these seven pieces of the puzzle. Often, you just don't know how they fit together.

1. First is power. The most elegant definition of power is the ability and the willingness to act. Power, in truth, has nothing to do with intimidation, control, or manipulation. It has nothing to do with the desire or the attempts to overpower.

"Power" has become a euphemism for fear. When you confront a scary person you often call them powerful. When you encounter a powerful person you often call them scary! Very strange.

True power is being both able and willing to choose and decide, and to act on those choices and decisions. It is being able and willing to think and feel and act on those thoughts and emotions. It is being able and willing to admit to having attitudes (opinions, evaluations, and discernments) and beliefs and then acting consciously on those attitudes and beliefs.

2. The second puzzle piece is creativity and productivity. Creativity is generating and stimulating conception and perception in yourself and/or in others. Creativity is not defined by career or label. The artist and the non-artist, by whatever definition, are creative if they generate and stimulate conception and perception.

Levels of productivity are measured by the amount you learn about yourself. Whatever you are doing, if you learn a great deal about you and who you are, then it is productive. If you learn little or nothing, then it is nonproductive. Productivity is a quality, not a quantity.

3. Then there is awareness, and there is aliveness. Many look for lofty esoteric meanings for these two concepts. In their search they lose sight of success. To be aware, concisely, means knowing you have impact. Some believe that it is impossible to have impact on each other. Yet others will concede and deal with impact. Whether they are supposed to have it or not, they actually do have impact on the people around them. Regardless, everyone agrees that you have impact, at least on yourself. When you know this -- really know this -- you become aware.

When you combine four very special ingredients, something very special happens. You create the synergy of aliveness. Synergy means the whole is greater than the sum of the parts, and in this case the aliveness is more than just equal parts of love, trust, expectancy, and enthusiasm.

To become really alive it is important to combine the flexibility and fluidity of love with the fragility and rigidity of trust. Then it is vital to stir in the wonder of expectancy and the sparkle of enthusiasm. Mix well. Be alive.

4. Happiness is the fulfillment of your needs. Joy is the fulfillment of your preferences. Enjoyment is the elegance with which you do both.

5. Many make the mistake of assuming that success means having resources. In truth, success means having access to resources. There are those who have money, but no real access to it or to what it can buy them. They do not experience success. Others have loads of access to money as their only resource. They often experience limited or shallow success. The truly successful person will have expansive access to physical and metaphysical resources. Success is within the grasp of anyone who can close their eyes, alter their state of consciousness, visualize, and manifest in their reality. If you are willing, each of you has unlimited potentials for success.

6. Critical to being successful: the willingness to adventure.

In your "old age" world you learn to be a warrior. You learn to confront, to battle, to conquer, and you dominate. In the "New Age" world you can learn to be an adventurer. You can learn to encounter, to understand, to befriend, and to transmute with dominion. Consciously created success involves - integrally involves -- being willing to adventure in your reality and in your world.

7. Dominion is an attitude and a belief. Dominion is a point of view. When you are willing to co-create your success with God/Goddess/All That Is rather than expecting someone to do it for you, you are on your way. When you are willing to stretch and reach for the future rather than grovel in the past, you begin to feel the excitement and the wonder of dominion. when you are able to see and demonstrate that first your world -- and then the world-at-large -- is a friendly place ready to support you rather than out to get you, then you have dominion.

With dominion, you have the final piece of the puzzle called success.

The secret of being successful -- of learning to be successful? Begin by owning each of the seven puzzle pieces as an attitude first. Feel. Feel powerful, creative/productive, aware/alive. Feel happiness and joy in an enjoying way. Feel that you have access to resources, a willingness to adventure. Feel dominion.

Do not expect to be successful first and then to have the feeling. Feel it first. Feel it first.

Do not aim at being successful. Do not make success the bull's eye of your target. Don't "shoot for success." Ironically, the secret to consciously creating success is not to make it the central target of your desire, expectation, or imagination. Rather, accomplish the means. Aim to be powerful, creative/productive, etc. Aim at the means and allow the ends to follow.

Don't shoot for the ends. Accomplish the means, The ends will follow.

With love and peace ... LAZARIS


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